How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex?

Wow after actually agreeing to start having sex I kept on facing this huge dillema in side of me.I mean my boyfriend is a very responsible person and I was very staright forward with him.Asking him questions about 'what are you going to do if I got pregnant? because I sure as hell won't agree to abortion!'.I guess that took him by surprise! He told me he would take care of me if that happened. I mean there is no such thing as safe sex only safer sex. But you know what I spent my time researching about the subject(safe sex) and discussing it with my boyfriend.But I soon came to
realized yesterday,

I DON'T WANT TO DO IT!!!

I don't want to do it NOT because I am afraid of becoming pregnant which could interrupt my studies. Not to mention bring shame upon my family name.I am Indonesian by the way, having a child before marriage is just somewhat unacceptable in this society.Not that it doesn't happen. Esecially from a conservative family like mine.I mean my mom had my older bro outside of marriage , I can't begin to explain the pain she went thorugh with her parents and friends . Thank God my dad told them to sod off mate and married her even though I doubt he knew much about her back then.
I don't want to go throught he same ordeal.I just want to give it away on my wedding night you know!just that one time in my whole life.One damn night!!! And if he doesn't turn out to be the right husband then I'll start screwing around.Let the games begin (JOKING!)

My question is ,how do I tell my boyfriend I changed my mind?I mean it's like I got him all worked up about it and then slap him cold right on the face with a big 'NO!' It's just that if I don't make this decision who will make it for me???!!! I don't know how my boyfriend will take it. I love him so much . I've never imAGINED BEING WITH ANYBODY BUT HIM!We've invested so much in this relationship The man I want to marry after university. Which will be in 3 years .Start a family with.But that doesn't justify having sex soon. Nothing does except a ring on my finger.but if he doesn't like it I am willing to break up with him and spend the whole year crying on my bed.Probably never fall in love again! But I have a strong gut feeling it is for the best. SO tell me am I doing the right thing? Or if you have other ideas on what I should do would you kindly share it with me?

Well if he is willing to listen about talkin about becoming pregnant than you should be able to talk to him about you not wanting to have sex. Talk to him about it. The worst thing that can happen is that he gets mad about it, but if he loves you and you love him than it shouldn't matter when you guys have sex. He should be willing to wait until you get married. He should understand that you have changed your mind about it because you have been thinking a lot about the situation. Tell him that you thought you were ready, but you really want to wait until your wedding night to have sex. I'm sorry if my advice doesn't help you, but if I was in this situation that is what I would do. Message me and let me know what happens.

...you really need to work on your communication with him if you're planning on marrying him.

hey its ok to change your mind, talk to him and explain your feelings honestly and he should support you and care for your feelings and after all if he deserves your precious gift he will wait till the wedding, don't do it to satisfy him, take care wish you luck

If you don;'t want to have sex, then you don't want to have sex. Just tell him. If he loves you, he'll understand completely.

well just say no I dont think im ready !

A lot of what these people are saying is right. if your boyfriend loves you he will listen and accept your decision. I mean yes, he may be a little disappointed. But like I said, if he loves you, he will listen and accept your decision in changing your mind about having sex

- hoped I helped!