How do i tell her?

My friend is very nice girl however sometimes she is a bit much. She call's me everysingle day and always wants to come to my house and pick me up and go places, which some times can be a little bit much esspecially when you have had a long day and she...

shows up on your doorstep at 10 oclock at night when your in bed.

She hates the guy im seeing for no apparent reason and if me and him have a date she always says im leaving her for him even if we never had plans. I tried avoiding her and didnt see her for a week and when I saw her she started crying and telling me she needed me and I hadnt been there for her and nothing had even happened to her. She also keeps saying that we are best friends, now dont get me wrong shes my friend but I dont feel like she's my best friend the only reason we are friends in the first place is because we work at the same youth club and her mum is my boss.this also raises a problem because she sometimes over steps the boundry of being my friend and becomes my bosses daughter, for example, I told her mum I was sick one day( which I wasnt right but we all do it) took the day off work and went to my boyfriends house. My friend suspected that I was lying, called my boyfriend (who she hates) and asked him if was there and then told her mum I was lying which pissed me off, I felt betrayed but she said she didnt think she had done anything wrong.

I know I should tell her how im feeling but she is the type of person who takes everything to heart and personally and if I tell her, im afraid of hurting her feelings. I dont mind being friends and going out together and stuff but I dont want to live in eachothers pockets. I feel like she constantly wants to be around me and I dont mean to sound like I love myself but I feel like she is trying to be just like me aswell, she copies my clothes, the way I speak and she latches on to my other friends and trys to maintian friendships with them over myspace and facebook, which doesnt bother me but its just so forced and its annoying what shoudl I do?

you should just tell her she is not your bestfriend ... and that you and some space and time from her... she is just been a baby ... are you sure she is like not in love with you or somethin ... cause why would she hate your boyfriend if she has no reason ... but you need to talk to her and tell her how you are feeling... its better to let everyone know how you feel ... good luck

I think I've done that to my friends(not the whole calling the boyfriend thing though) and I didnt realize I was doing it until I read this...so she might not realize it either... just talk to her about it and say I dont know if you realize it or not but youve been wanting to be around me all the time and I just need my space and I'd like to be with my boyfriend because he's most important to me(if thats true but im sure it is) and maybe tell her that before she come over your house to atleast call or text you and wait to see if you dont mind...make sure that you point out that she shouldnt call your boyfriend even if she thinks your lying because a best friend in her terms should trust their friends...so to sum it all up just make sure you talk to her about it...

I know someone like this. my friend, Anita, is in the same position as you. her friend is always talking about her when she;s not there, not bad stuff, but it's like she's obsessed. my friend joined the swim team and so did this girl. it's seriously scary.

sounds to me like she's a very clingy person. maybe she only has a few close friends, and you are her fave. does she get teased at school?

I think that she hates yur boyfriend and told yur mom about you lying about being sick cause she is jealous that you spend time with him that you cud spend with her.

I say you sit her down and tell her that she's really nice, but you need some space. tell her that you cant spend all of your time with her. if she doesn't get it, tell her off. if she's that dense, she doesn't deserve your kindness.

Thanks for your advice its really helpful x

cut her off! she sounds like a basketcase!