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How do i tell her?

Asked by tntcharmed313 about 1 year ago, 18 answers.

I'm 14 and I've been raped mulitpul times by dad and my brother...what do I tell me mom/how do I tell her cause I told my friend about it and she had me take 2 pregnancy tests and they were both positive...but the thing is I don't know who's it is...what...

do I do? My mom is really mormon so I doubt she'll believe me cause her and my dad were married in the temple...
All help is greatly appriecited

Answered by babylove138 on Oct 20, 2008, 08:39PM
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To this day I still don't get how a FATHER could rape their daughter, thats SICK IN THE GOD DAMN HEAD! I hope he goes to hell for that and your brother too. I would definitely get an abortion man...thats just too much to bear and you do not deserve this, and tell your mom immediately. The only way the police can help you is if you prove that you were raped and that would be by them performing a rape kit to see if any traces of their dna is in you. I pray this never ever happens to you but if it ever does then right away call the police so they can actually charge them with rape. You have to do this for yourself, promise us all. God bless.

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Shark Atack Answered by funadvice on Oct 20, 2008, 06:32PM
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omg I feel so sorry for you well I have never been raped so I don't know how you feel but I know that you have to tell your mom she can help you you need help bringing up this child tell your mom

The Fiance and Me at a Luau Answered by mandyloo on Oct 20, 2008, 06:33PM
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If this is the truth:

Go to your Mom ASAP! She has the right to know and needs to help you.
Go to the cops, you got violated and raped and they need to face the consequences.
See a doctor as soon as you can to confrim the pregnancy, and decide what you want to do.
Abort: probley the best decision in this case
Adoption: It would be really hard to carry a rapist baby (esp your dad's or brothers) and could be emotionally wrecking to do so.
Keep it: I highly suggest you dont. You would have to deal with that child every day knowing how it was conceived.

Satan's Little Helper (threadless design) Answered by mysterywolf on Oct 20, 2008, 06:33PM
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You have to just flat out tell her that you were raped multiple times by your dad and brother, and you've tested positive for pregnancy. If she doesn't believe you, you have to call the cops and tell them exactly what happened, and don't hold back. Do it now, this is very important!

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xxxxxx Answered by brittanyagain on Oct 20, 2008, 06:33PM
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you got to tell her. or tell the police. this is a serious thing. I can't believe your dad raped you! You can't let them get away with this.

Shark Atack Answered by funadvice on Oct 20, 2008, 06:34PM
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u need to tell her!!! and make her believe u! take another test and show it to her! your going to need help to raise a child if you really are prego! if she wont listen do to some other family member!

idk? haha Answered by bubbles0990 on Oct 20, 2008, 06:36PM
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ok if you dont think you can tell your mom then tell a TRUSTED adult like maybe a counler, family member, teacher, older friend...ect. and have them talk to your mom if you cant but it is BETTER if YOU tell your mom YOURELF!!! Just do it fast like ripping off a band aid!

im sorry by the way

me. Answered by teelay on Oct 20, 2008, 06:46PM
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aww that's so sad srry.

I agree just tell her.

Answered by phoenixwillow on Oct 20, 2008, 09:21PM
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hi you really deserve to talk about this and it will be hard...maybee a counsellor [at school] or at a free health clinic will be able to help you out first its hard not knowing you or your family but maybee with a trusted friend or the counsellor you dont have to deal with this on your own and you dont have to put up with it good luk hun...phoenixwillow

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Answered by rachael130 on Oct 21, 2008, 05:10AM
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you have come this far- to open up and tell a bunch of people you dont know. thats the 1st step over with and probably the HARDEST- just admitting you have been raped, but worst of all by your dad.
go to the police tell them first, they should take it from there and they will tell your mother!
you obviously have doubts she wont believe you or your scared of her reaction, but at least if you go to the police, they wont take sides, or say your a liar
but you will be protected and looked after
do it now flower, put a stop to it now, dont let this happen again, you deserve better!!!
the baby is your choice but in my opinion I would abort it, hopefully you will be able to move on from the whole situation forget it - one day.
good luck x

Dix Answered by puglover on Oct 21, 2008, 09:00PM
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please tell you mom ,,,and go to a teacher, councelor as well...the proper actions must be taken to protect yOU. pLEASE DONT GET AN ABORTION..ITS STILL A BABY AND NOT HIS/HER FAULT. Adoption is the best answer!
Funmail me if you want to talk..also have some resources for you!

me[: Answered by xokarliox on Oct 22, 2008, 06:10PM
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call the police

Me Answered by i_love_caleb on Oct 23, 2008, 12:20AM
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OMG dont have the baby, I know a girl who got raped and pregnant by her father and the baby came out with retardations.. and juist having to live with your own fathers or brothers baby is quite disturbing, your only 14 you shouldn't have to deal with a baby at your age.. abortion is a very sad sad thing to do, but I think its the rioght thing to do because I wouldnt want my baby living a life soo horibal. and if I was the kid I wouldnt want my mother to keep me because its just going to bring back bad memories of your very sad childhood, if your mom dosnt belive you, then your just going to have to get out of there because you are a special person and you dont need top be treated like that.. CALL THE COPS!!! THEY WILL HELP YOU, they both need to go to jail, this is no joke... Maybe your brother has been molested or something to act like this... You should get out of this house ASAP!!! Godbless. I hope everything works out..

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Answered by porkchop on Oct 23, 2008, 09:22PM
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Make your own decision about that baby. Don't let anyone - not your friends or family or anyone else - pressure you into a decision you know is wrong.

Your mom deserves to know. If she denies what you tell her, then she's at fault. Never underestimate the love a mom has for her kids, she just might go to bat for you.

Most importantly, please know that you aren't alone and that there are people that care for your wellbeing, even if its folks in this site.

me. Answered by karatebabe89 on Nov 05, 2008, 06:31PM
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Tell your mom, but don't get an abortion, because all life is worthy no matter what disability the child has I am sure anyone would rather have ceberal palsy or something like that than to have never lived at all.

Answered by veganese on Dec 13, 2008, 03:38AM

Oh my god I'm so sorry this happened. I was recently raped (its still hard to even admit it) but it was by a stranger. I don't know if I'd be able to understand or survive someone I know hurting me in such a way. I agree with all the advice that's been given. Call the Police immediately or tell a trusted adult (if you're not yet comfortable telling your mom). In my case I will never tell anyone in my family but I think it is important to deal with what happened know that it is NOT your fault and that the people in your life greatly betrayed your trust and hurt you. It makes me cry just thinking about it. I'm a teenager too. It will get better I promise and I pray, but you have to do what's best for yourself now. Please tell someone who you can trust and can get your dad and brother away from you. I'm really really sorry about what's been happenign to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Jesus, you're so strong for a 14 year..and believe me this will all make you stronger in the end

Answered by lola15 on Oct 24, 2009, 08:38AM
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ok tell her and if she dosnt belive you she will if you get a dna test and it comes back to be one of them

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