How do i reach an orgasem?

Im 16 and just started to have sex, We have been doing this for about a month and im not even sure if I know what an orgasem is, how do I know one's comeing? And do you have to build one up? how???We go hard and we go soft and slow but nothing, he even...

tried fingering me hard core, and nothing! Im upset and so is my partner..help

Have you ever had orgasm, e.g. by yourself?

an orgasm is a state of extreme pleasure.. for both male and females.

Females haev an orgasm when they're hit on their g-spot and excessively, ( it also depends on women, some women orgasm quicker, whiles others take time) ...

the way to know if yah havin an orgasm is when yah feel soo much pleasure and u start to hold on sooo tight and grab on.. so if ur masturbatin or ur mans fingerin u, and u grab on to say the sofa or n e thing... or if yah havin sex and u grab hold of his back and scratch him so intensely.. x

in an orgasm the vagina decreases by 30% and everythin becomes tight and congested..

Imiz x

oh and if ur boyfriends fingerin u, tell him to take his time, go slow, take a pause every 2/3 strokes, the key to n e orgasm is ta massage the clit rather than the vagina.. x

try masterbation to see what you like... the more you know your own body, the more you will be able to help your partner pleasure you. Women take longer than men to reach orgasm. Women will rarely reach orgasm by sex alone, unless he is wearing something to stimulate the clit as well... Alternate methods of massage...

How can i improve sexuality?

in time u will,u have 2 do it more to reach it

iam 16 as well and me and my girlfriend have had sex abit now. we are first timers to this so iam still not sure if I've gave her an orgasem. I've asked her and she says I think so, so iam abit confused. I've read the paros above and she as holded really tight nearly scartchin my back, but while this there was hardly any noise from her is this an orgasem or nearlly an orgasem or what let me no please :D c what you think x

Well if you want to reach a stimulating orgasm then I recommend using a sex toy that stimulates the clitoris and the G-spot. A rabbit type device is great for stimulating both areas, http://www.extremeclimax.com has some great products to produce an intense orgasmic experience.

do your best do some foreplay and it will come.
and tray to relexe.
it will help to.
it happend to me to.

I have the same problem, im also 16 and my girlfriend is 16 too we have been having sex for almost 5 months we have tried every position in the book as well as foreplay, my problom is that I cant orgasm I have made he orgasm before but she just cant doing to me. we have tried blow jobs hand jobs even jerking it for a good period of time. Anyone have anything to recommend on what to do?

Ok,so I don't have a partner so I masturbate! I use an electric toothbrush on the brissle side on my clit and lay down on my bed with back on bed, waist on edge, feet on floor and put it on high speed and go up and down fast but NO pressure! Orgasm is extreme pleasure and lead to some spasm like feel in your vagina.

[P.S. put baby oil on the toothbrush for a nice, sex like feel and no pain]