How do I know if my ex still loves me?

There is this boy who I loved over 8 years. He's been everything to me and I honestly feel that he is someone I can see myself with in 20 years. I love him I really do. I feel all those butterflies in my stomach when I see him, I think of him everywhere I go and buy anything for him. I tell him I love him all the time. At first, I was shy and never was able to tell him in person. It was about the 6 month when I actually started telling him that I loved him, and began kissing him. However, we broke up a little after a year because we weren't really communicating. Things were being different, I moved (not far) but I moved and I barely saw him. He claimed he had things to do and so did I. We woulnd't call each ohter so I decided to break up with him. After a while, I wrote to him on our 2 year anniversary (that is if we would have still been together) and I told him that I still thoguht about him and that I loved him. He said why would I do that to him, cause he was crushed when I broke up with him , and he doesn't know what to say even though he still feels the same way. After then we hanged out a lot I moved back (closer to him) and we talked as friends. There were times where he would hug me and try to kiss me and I felt that he loved me a lot. But, then there were times where he would act completely different as if he was annoyed. His problem is that he never likes to share his problems or his inner feelings. He keeps them to himself and I never find out what's wrong. Not to long ago I told him that I loved him again and that I still care about him .He said that he really had no idea and I should have told him this before. I asked him a rhetorical question (but hoping him to answer "I still love you" - how were you able to move on? and he told me that after all the times I told him to go ( I broke up with him every other day before). A few days past and I told him I couldnt deal with just being his friend because in the long run I'm the one getting hurt and my feelings are at risk. I rahter just give me some time so I can move on also. He then called me that night and said that he thought it was unfair that I didn't want to keep on talking to him because he wanted to continue talking to me. He said that I was being selfish. I told him that wasn't true because I wanted to talk to him I wanted to see him, but I don't want to continue a relationship knowing that the most I'll ever be is his friend. I want more. he stayed quiet (I guess he was suprised that I actualy wasn't shy to talk to him about that) and hen we talked for a little more and he said It's getting late I'll talk to you later abotu this. I said okay. and we said bye. I felt happy in a way because I felt that he cared, since he called me. So , a week past and then we talked about things and he said that in the long run I'll be his spouse but this will happen after. He said after 2 years it will be about me and him. I was amazed that he said this, but kind of confused because he told me that he moved on. So a week later I told him I can't take this anymore I love you and I really need to know how you feel I really want to see if you care about me because you are confusing my mind. You tell me that you move on then you tell me that I'll be yours in the future, and then you barely show me you care logging off online, brushing me off, answering one word IM's. I don't understand. And then there are times where he waits for me in the middle of the night till I get out of work. I dont understand if he cares aobut me.

Sometimes I feel like theres another person. I feel like he cares about someone else and he is just using me for the moment . I don;t know how he feels. But I don't know how to act. Should I keep telling him and reminding him that I love him everydaY? or should I just wait untill he makes a move?

Please . Help.

Wow. Slooooow down, girl!

Your post was really quite confusing and way too wordy. You need to simplify your thoughts because you are not realizing that you have answered your own question already. You said he doesn't talk about his feelings and keeps them locked up and is closed off? He said he loves you, expressed how hurtful and hard it was that you kept playing ping pong with his heart, admits he is confused and annoyed, shows up to care for you and then pulls away when he is hurt. What more do you want this guy to do for you? Can you blame him for pulling away from a girl who constantly breaks up and then gets back with him? When a guy doesn't have feelings for a woman, he doesn't do or say any of the things this guy has. Do you want him to slit his wrists and ask you to marry him to prove that he has feelings for you? Do you want him to cry and beg and plead to be with you while you keep jerking him around? He is smart for protecting himself. You are hurtful and abusive to him.

You're being a selfish jerk. This guy has been at your beck and call and when he tires of your games, you whine and cry about whether or not he really loves you and you accuse HIM of having issues with intimacy? You are the one who is afraid of opening up to him and trusting him.

This guy deserves waaaaay better. If you had an ounce of sense, you'd close your mouth and open your heart and stop second guessing every single the thing the poor guy says and does.

Geez. Do this guy a favor and cut him loose, because you are obviously way too immature to handle what he has to offer.