How do I just relax?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and I've never really kissed him. ( yeh I know thats pretty long) I really want to kiss and I think I have a good idea of how to but everytime the time comes I just freeze. Probably because I am constanly thinking bout if he's thinking of my gosh she's bad or her breath stinks or something.

I also have a problem expressing my feelings to him, I am frighten that if I let him in I'll get way too attached and it will hurt a lot when or if the relationship ends. I really try to talk about stuff but get choked up everytime.

how do I just loosen up already?

''well before you loosen up'' think if this person is the wright person to loosen up too. Never loosen up to someone you dont love or to someone you 'THINK' you love its probably just lust. Its true if you loosen up to someone after a while, you brake up oh oh your in trouble because you will want to die if after a while you fell on love. when I met my husband I didnt loosen up until we had been going out for four years, but when I did I was sure of what I felt for him and I was sure that I loved him and that he loved me. BUT thats just me.

Ok first off, if you have been with him for 3 years then you should be just fine around him and if you just freeze up then maybe you should ask him about it and say hey do you maybe want to try kissing or something I know it sounds corny but its all I have so I hope it helps and good luck

think about it this way, just do it and get it over with and you won't be nervous or whatever about it anymore.