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This is not exactly a problem but yet I thought I'd take some advice. I have a crush on a professor of mine in college obviously older to me and obviously married. I definitely don't love him I am sure of that because It's not like every minute I am longing to be with him but when I look at him I feel kinda shy. When I am busy he's forgotten but when I am idle I tend to think of him. How do I get over this crush or would it generally go away? I previously had a big crush on a friend of mine for a long time but it went away after sometime. I want to get over this because I don't want to get carried away and I am sensible enough to understand that this is not good. Can someone help?
I'm changing what I said before.I do like a prof,and there may or may not be legal reasons we can't get involved.Aside from that, he's not willing to date any student-current or former, period,because he sees his job as a professor as kind of like that of a therapist and he feels it needs to have boundaries. Also, he is involved with another person, and they are pretty serious.Now that I've considered that-I think I'd work on getting over my crush, but I think I'd take other classes from him and try to just relate to him student to professor, only. Obviously he cares about all students in an appropriate way, so he's not bad to have around. He's just not dateable.
I don't know. I'm looking for the answer myself. Basically I don't want to be with anybody that is obviously married. With my professors...I'd have to drop out of school and/or be his wife to be involved with him at all legally. If he dated me now and we took it to a physical level it would be a felony on his part. I know that's not good so I'm trying to get over mine, too. Most schools have really strict guidelines on this-legally, ethically-if he went for you it could be sexual harassment, he could lose his job, it could ruin your life, possibly. I don't think any crush is worth all that.
Yea that's what I am trying to do I am trying my best to get over this crush over my professor. You know actually it won't be long before u get over crushes over college profs because they are obviously older to ou and seconly somehow even if u have a crush on ur prof when he ends up taking classes for u u see him so academically. Try this, try seeing him as a prof, go to him only when u want something really important, keep urself engaged. My crush is not entirely gone but yea I am getting over it...
I have the problem a lot. what I do is: 1 write or talk about it (if your gonna talk about it, make sure it's someone you really trust) 2 avoid him/her (it might be a little hard) 3 if people say their name, or ask you about them, just walk away or dont say anything 4 make friends some things not to do: 1 start roomers about them 2 follow them around and spy on them 3 make fun of them
I've had the same problem many times. Its just a matter of time. If you think about it, your not going to see the guy around as much as you do now than in the future. After awhile your memory of him with slowly go away and you wont like him as much, then soon you wont like him anymore. Theres nothing you can do about it right this second but be patient and it'll be over.
i have the same problem i feel the same way you do, i guess you have just got to let it run its course?
lots of icecream, try to find a flaw in your crush, and know that it probably wouldnt work out
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