How do I gain confidence?

I'm 15 years old, 16 this year, and I have no confidence. I have confidence to dress differently, but when it comes to social events or talking to people I don't know, I dry up. I can't talk fluently to teachers or anyone else in authority and I find it uncomfortable speaking to a large audience.
This is going to cause me many problems for the future as I will probably lose out on jobs (because of the lack of speech during job interviews) or come across as too shy or meek.

Please help!

Aww!! Well, you're kind, smart, beautiful, individual, all around wonderful!! Affrimations everyday. And ask yourself, why arent you confident?? is it what people say?? Everyone morning, find something about you that you like. Your hair colour, your eye shape, whatever. try and find something new every day (:

do what I do act like who eva is there ant there and just answer there questiins and just like block them out when you talk to them

The main thing to do 2 build confidence is 2 just not care about what other people think. don't worry but what they say, just ignore them. I no its easier said thatn done but if you give it a try then you realise that it is quite easy. people take the mic out of me 4 avin long hair but I don't care because I think ma hair is cool and ma m8s do and thats all that matters to me. ignore the critisisms and egknowledge the good things that people say bout u. just act yurself and if people don't like that then that is thee problem not yurs. and you will gain yur confidence. thats what I did. and now im confident. more than most. so just go 4 it.

I don't need to answer this because your friend has already answered your question. But I can say this, problems like this are caused because your so young and your mind plays with you. You should seriously listen to your friends at your age because what their eyes see physically and sometimes mentally is more than what you yourself can see sometimes. This is just a phase your most likely going through and it will pass. Your friends can last forever and if they are true then listen to what they have to say.

- Gothik

I use to be like that till one day I got fed up and told people how I feel dont be scared people respect people who speak their minds just practice grow some balls you know thats ill I can tell you and for the whole speaking in large groups I still have stage fright so im not much help sorry . good luck

First, you need to realize that you are special and you have talents. Just because you haven't learned what they are doesn't mean that you don't have them.

Being shy or quiet is NOT a deficiency. Many people, including employers, prefer shy people as they make great employees in the right position.

I suggest that you find a way to deal with authority. I was like you, and fought it for years. It's a losing battle, and you're the one who will lose. Make a game of it, or find some way of 'tricking' yourself into turning it around from a negative into a positive.

You need to realize that getting along with people doesn't mean that you have to agree with them. Hey, feel sorry for them, or whatever. Tell yourself that you're glad you're not like them, or whatever you have to tell yourself.

In time, you'll find that there is good authority and bad. The people who use authority in a good way are the majority. The ones who use it in a bad way are insecure and THEY have a problem. The good news is, YOU don't have that problem, they do.

And when you can get past that issues, you get to leave it behind you. THEY have their problem to keep with them until they can get over it.

You need to read some positive books. I suggest that you find some books by Og Mandino to read. Also, read something like The Power of Positive Thinking or The Magic Of Thinking Big.

Find your strengths and play to them. Do what you're good at, and for God's sake, get away from ANYONE who makes you feel inferior. They are a poison and you must absolutely run away.

Success to you,

Kurt
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always carry yourself with pride sweety you are a lovly girl and nobody should make you feel any different .. not even urself

ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND THAT 'the ones who mind don't matter, the ones who matters don't mind' so say whatever you want to say with confidence & don't afraid to look 'stupid'