How do I forget my dads abuse?

Ok here is my problem/story.

When I was old enough to walk, thats when my father started to beat me with his bare hands. Every single mistake I made, would not go unpunished, whether if it was accidental, or could be resolved. He never waited for what I had to say, he is a very short - tempered man, and so I had to deal with his abuse, while my mom did nothing even though I kept telling her I was being abused.

Even though I know longer live with my dad, I still have unwanted memories, that just won't go away. They make me want to cry, and Im just so confused..Im thirteen now, but I just can't forget about my nightmares. I can't get over the abuse?

hi there, it's so unfortunate that something like this had to happen to such a sweet sounding girl..I wish you all the best but if theyre somehting I may add please read on my mother was abused when she was a child and if theres something she always tell us is that the memories dont go away but you have to learn to be strong on move on with your life, try talking to someone you can trust about this make sure you tell them everything sometimes its easier to talk to people you dont know. try taking it easy and think about happy times instead of the bad ones...if you find urself restless in anyway try putting on a movie or read a nice book or play a game...I also believe you should talk to your mother about this because it also sounds like theres something you need to ask her which would be why she didnt do anything to help you...good luck sweety you can message me if you need to talk to someone

That is a very tough thing. I am so sorry you had to go through something so
horrible. I believe in order to move on you just have to do good things in your life. Make YOURSELF feel good. It's all in the past. We all have some kind of past, good, bad, so-so and so on. surround yourself with people you love and you know love you back. Talk about it. Don't bury it. I hoped I helped even just a little. I'm bummed right now because of some butt nuggett on here that ruined my day. Have a good one sweetie!

Its past. You need to forget about the past and focus on the future. You have to forget it if not you wont get along with your life. One thing that you need to know is that God is alive. He is not sleeping. If you run to Him for help, He will surely deliver you. And to run for help to Him is through prayers. Prayer is the master key. Thinking about this abuse is not of a benefit to you. It will only make you cry. The advice I can give you is:

1. Don't think about things that make you sad. Instead think of things that make you happy.

2. Always remember to go to God in prayers. As soon as you are able to get over with this abuse, DON'T FORGET GOD. He is the Ultimate. He will deliver you.

3. Always have faith in God.

REMEMBER: Heaven helps those who help themselves. You have to your own self too try too.

Like luret says: God can take things meant for evil and turn them into what is good - I would go to counseling, pray, work on my faith, and look forward to the future He has in store for you !!

I am sooo sorry that is sooo mean

you can ask your mom to call a place with a phsychologist, it really helps. they can work you through your problems.

Most of the time this kind of abuse is hard to overcome by yourself. It would be best too see a professional because they can give you tips and tools that would be hard to come by on your own. Don't be afraid as it was not your fault. But the longer you wait the longer you will let that monster have control over your life.

Thanks, my mother takes to me to family counceling, but I don't really tell the councellor anything, I let my mum chat away her problems instead. Lol.

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You need to be able to talk to the councelor in private so that you can air your thoughts to him/her. If you talk about them you will take away their power over you and make your past less haunting.

You can overcome your past abuse but it does, often times, require outside help.

my bro was abused as a kid and I had to watch it all. I dont really know what its like but you have to know that it was wrong and un-fortunate but you didn't deserve it! you might never forget it but try to be stronger from it. talking helps. and if it was disturbing that your mom did nothing than talk to her about it. Good luck!

Thanks, Im glad I asked for your advice people! I feel a little bit better now.