How did you know that your husband was the one?

How did you know that your husband was the one/ what were the feelings you had.

Who knows. lol I doubt there is a sure way to decide if your guy is the 'one'. Love is always a gamble. I met my husband when I was 17 and he was my first 'real' boyfriend. It just seemed that we felt the same way about each other from the start. Our relationship was so effortless. It sounds corny, but loving him was easy and natural. I've been with him for over nine years and married for almost three. A lot of things between us have changed over the years, but there's this little feeling that tells me nothing could change so much that we would lose sight of how important we are to one another. Sometimes, I just think I got lucky and there really is nothing extraordinary about our relationship. I know how uncommon it is for a 17 year old girl to fall head over heels for a 22 year old 'man' and everything just work out. I personally don't believe in soul mates, but maybe I should.

I didn't know. In fact I was riddled with doubt. My second marriage of 18 years was the one I was most certain of. This is the third go-around for me. We were friends and neighbors first. What got me was his incredible intellect.
12 years ago I knew I loved him and that he desperately wanted me. Every where I went, he would manage to show up. I can't honestly say that I was in love with him, just that I felt that would come with time. Now that he has cancer, I can't imagine my life without him. December 7th we'll be married 8 years. We're together 24/7 and manage to not kill each other .. lol .. so we must be doing something right. Personally, I think it's our mutual faith in a power greater than ourselves that sees us through the rough spots. I, in fact had been praying for a God-given-mate at the church I was attending, when my husband -to-be
moved in directly across the hall from me. Turned out we had both been growing up
in Iran together but in different schools in the 60's and remembered all the same places. Our mutual love for cats and good cooking was instrumental in launching the relationship. The feelings I had were mostly those of admiration, respect and pride in his accomplishments. Sure I felt love, but when it's your third time around (and you've been burned); you tend to think more pragmatically about marriage. I know that this is my last one and that if I should ever find myself single again; I will thoroughly enjoy going, doing and being as I please ... an independent contractor. I rather enjoy my own company when I'm alone. It's a heck of a lot less work and a lot less to worry about. Then again it's kind of nice to have someone to take out the trash and get things down off the shelf. .. Just kidding .. I would probably be a basket case for a long long time if I were to lose my sweetie. my advice is beware of feelings alone-they are as changeable as the seasons. I have been in and out of love repeatedly. It's the spirit of commitment and determination that makes for a lasting marriage. at least that's what I have observed when it comes to the successful relationships I've hoped to model mine after. Many Blessings