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I have a jealousy problem with my girlfriend andi love her a lot and I know she loves me to but sometimes I just think she's flirtin with guys even tho she says she's not. Sometimes I think she's going to find another guy and be with him for some reason and I dont want to think that. And I hate thinking she's going to do somthing with her guy friends. I really want to start trusting her and stop thinking that she's doing something because its ruing our relationship, but I just dont know how to overcome my jealousy.
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Step1 Find and get rid of what is causing the jealousy. There has to be one major thing that triggered the jealousy whether it's a person, something that happened, etc. If you have trouble deciphering the cause you can find worksheets available online to help you determine the specific cause.
Step2 Focus on each reason one at a time. If you find yourself with many causes for the jealousy be sure you focus and tackle one at a time. By trying to tackle more at one time you will not learn as much from each and doing one at a time can also help you grow stronger inside.
Step3 Increase your self esteem. When we have low self esteem, we experience insecurity and can result in jealousy. But there are fun ways to increase your self esteem. Do things that you enjoy, that make you happy and make you feel loved. Consider a day all to yourself to be pampered. Or, a full day of your favorite hobby. The point is to raise your self esteem so it needs to be something you really enjoy and that makes you feel good, inside and out.
Step4 Find your definition. Many people, when feeling jealous or insecure are usually unhappy with themselves for whatever reason. By figuring out the definition of yourself, who you really are, you can both increase self esteem and gain security as well.
Step5 Talk with your partner. If you feel you cannot conquer overcoming the jealousy and insecurity you feel, talk with your partner. Even if they are the reason you feel this way, it is always best to try and work it out together. So make your concerns and feelings known to them and see if you can't go from there.
I have a girlfriend and we were going out for about 5 months now and it seems like I dont really trust her. I havent trusted her since we began to go out because I see her flirting with guys every single day and texting and calling guys everyday. people say TRUST TRUST TRUST your girlfriends. I really try to trust her but it doesnt seem like its working. I have to go through this every single day and I dont want to go through this throughout my whole relationship with her. I really dont know what to do. she says she loves me everyday but im not sure. she flirts with guys in front of me and I tell her stop and she keeps on doing it over and over and over and over again and later she comes and says trust me. how can I trust her? I have never ever flirted with girls after she became my girlfriend. thats why she trusts me. but.. sigh... lol what do I do. I told her 5 months straight DO NOT FLIRT PLEASEEE. we fight about this almost everyday but it doesnt seem like she gets it and will ever not. what do I do?
I do the same thing when I'm hanging out with a guy. I always ask them if they really like me and all this other stuff, they say yes, and the only thing I can do is trust. You need to get over the jealousy thing. It's probably a cause of some insecurity and you're just really paranoid (I'm that way). You need to just trust her. If she says she's not doing anything, then she's not. If you can't trust her, then it might ruin your relationship even more to the point where she'll not want to be with you anymore. Try to find out why you're so jealous and fix it and trust her, trust her, trust her!♥
Okay well you have to think of it like this. If she says she loves you and only you, believe her, don't questin her and don't accuse her of anything. You NEED to trust her 100%. If she does cheat on you its not your fault and she broke her promise. You did nothing wrong. At least if you trust her 100% you can say you gave your all and your best and you cant blame anyone but her.
i have the same problem atm the girl i love n i talk a lot but she said u no she was at a m8s party and she talked bout this guy she used to now from school n i t jelouse straight away i dont no y she has said she wants to spend the res of her life with me so how can i trust her learn to trust her more help please
overcome jealousy is really hard. you really need to LEARN how to trust. jealousy a lifetime thing. but if you trust her & she see's that your learning to trust her,she'll eventually ST0P. well that's what I would do.
remember the moments you spent with her if her sole attraction were only you at that time then she loves you if not than you are right
