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I've been really depressed for a while. I want to tell my parents but I'm affraid it will worsen their depression. I know that they are stressed and depressed so I don't know if my being depressed will just make them angry with me and themselves. I can't talk to any of my friends about it at the moment because my parents grounded me from the phone. This is my last resort because I can't cope with it alone and I don't know how to tell my parents.
Just pick a time when everything is calm and tell them.
You are at an age where hormones, emotions and even your brain are undergoing strong changes. It is natural to occasionally feel confused or depressed.
The best thing you can do is to talk to a counselor or therapist. Barring that, find someone you can communicate your emotions and thoughts with, sort of like a sounding board. Keeping your thoughts to yourself doesn't help. If you can't find someone around you then consider Fun Mailing someone on Fun Advice whose advice you like. It's relatively private and gives you a good sounding board.
Check out the link below for information on teen depression.
Information on teen depression:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depressionteenteenagers.htm
If you are having problems or are depressed, below are a couple of sites that may help you:
Worldwide:
Check out the Befrienders link below. They are not only a suicide hotline but also offer help to people who are stressed or are in a state of depression.
http://www.befrienders.org/support/helplines.asp
In the U.S.A., you also have access to:
Boys Town National Hotline
Call With Any Problem, Any Time
1-800-448-3000
http://www.boystown.org/hotline/index.asp
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I would assume that you can't talk about what you are going through with anyone because it is too personal and you don't want others to know about it in relation to you.
The solution, then, might be to pick someone on Fun Advice whose advice you like and Fun Mail them. (You can check out the quality of someone's advice by clicking on their name; going down to their recent advice, click on view all, then click on the questions that might interest you and view their answers.) Explain to them that you are having problems and want to have someone to use as a "sounding board" and would like to know if they would be willing to be your sounding board. Fun Mail is basically private, so you shouldn't have any concerns about your privacy.
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You first need to find out whats making you depress before doing anything else...and when you find out what these things are you need to address the problems, As for your parents you can either write a letter or talk to the one you feel more comfortable with.Sometimes emotions transfer from one person to another so your parents being stressed out and depress might be the root of your problems...I'ld advice you to talk to them as soon as possible because at your age you should not be depress you should be enjoying your childhood...I think ya'll need to get together as a family and work these issues out...in the mean time I'ld suggest you find something to do like drawing or writing to occupy your time...
They're your parents and getting you some help will only make them happier, I would hope. You can sit them down and tell them you love them but you've been feeling pretty down and you're depressed. Just bring the topic gently. If you don't want to, you could always seek help elsewhere. The thought of having your parents there is better than some stranger. Thats what I did. You can see a counselor at your school and ask for places that could help, or even ask your counselor for tips on how to talk to your parents.
hope all ends well. (: I'll be crossing my fingers they do!
You are at an age where hormones, emotions and even your brain are undergoing strong changes. It is natural to occasionally feel confused or depressed.
It's normal to have random lows in your day at that age.
But depression is much more severe and has nothing to do with this - it has to do with events that have recently happened in /your/ life.
don't worry about your parents stress level. Just tell them that you think, I repeat think you might be suffering from clincal depression and you feel like you need to speak with someone. I am sure your parents love you unconditionaly and they would be heart broken if they new you were suffering and you did not tell them. Blessing
You could write them a letter. They'll want to know and help you. They would feel really bad if they found out you were upset and didn;t tel them
