How can I make sex stop hurting

my girlfriend and I have attempted sex a number of times, but each time she finds it very painful. She is always very wet and has many orgasms withy my fingers and tongue and I have tried lubricants and different kinds of condoms. She is not a virgin and has always had pain before. Im not that big as far as I know so I dont think thats it. Any advice?

Hi I am a 45yr old woman who hae suffered painful sex for most of my life. But I have had some good lovers and have taken responsibility myself for my problem. 1)Your girlfriend should take responsibility and the initiative for her sexuality. She can practice inserting different size dildos. She can practice stimulating the outside sexual areas and try puting the toy in and relaxing. She can try moving it in and out or help you do this. Also, prono flicks tend to show the guy vigorously thrusting.(Bad technique for teaching good sex) Good technique. When wet and aroused and soft and sexy rub your pen*s gently over the outside labia and up to the clitoris. gently sliding over te outside organs. Then put yourself inside slowly but gently. Then stay still as her vagina ajusts to you. Coughing or laughing can help relax the vagina walls. Then keeping close contact just move your bum in and out causing friction to the clitoris and tension to the vaginal muscle opening. After this make circular movements with your bum. This can feel very nice. Then procede to small in and out movements. A good rythmn is essential not too much over enthusiastic fast thrusting. As your girlfreind is aroused you can move up to more enthusiastic movement nearer to the end. If there are problems always love her and reassure her. There are medical reasons for painful sex but most of te time it is about poor technique, tension and the inability to relax. Your girlfriend must find her own sexuality and find what is right for her. Her whole body is a sexual organ. Find the pressure points and kiss them wrists, elbows, knees, where the bum goes in sensuality and sexuality. MMMmmm Good Luck.

Well if she has had sex before she should be open enough for you to fit inside her. But it may have been a long time since she last had sex so its really tight. you say that she is wet but it still hurts maybe she is a bit tense when you are trying... I know it is this way for a first time but you say she's not a virgin... hmm maybe you shud try to help her relax before you guys try too have sex. I also suggest that you use your finger and slowly insert another until she is relaxed enough. This will also help to open it so that it wont hurt so much. if this doesnt work after a while tell her she shud go tot he doctor for a gyno exam. She may have a condition where her vaginal muscles tense up everytime you try to have sex... but I doubt thats it. Lubricant wont work if she is tense. just use more and more of your fingers a lot for now and that shud relax and open .. it shud work..

Thank you for the advice. I believe she is very tense, like she's dying to "accomplish" it. It's got to be very frustrating for her that its so miserable every time after wanting to get to the point of having sex. I hope she can relax at some point.

Hi I am a 45yr old woman who hae suffered painful sex for most of my life. But I have had some good lovers and have taken responsibility myself for my problem. 1)Your girlfriend should take responsibility and the initiative for her sexuality. She can practice inserting different size dildos. She can practice stimulating the outside sexual areas and try puting the toy in and relaxing. She can try moving it in and out or help you do this. Also, prono flicks tend to show the guy vigorously thrusting.(Bad technique for teaching good sex) Good technique. When wet and aroused and soft and sexy rub your pen*s gently over the outside labia and up to the clitoris. gently sliding over te outside organs. Then put yourself inside slowly but gently. Then stay still as her vagina ajusts to you. Coughing or laughing can help relax the vagina walls. Then keeping close contact just move your bum in and out causing friction to the clitoris and tension to the vaginal muscle opening. After this make circular movements with your bum. This can feel very nice. Then procede to small in and out movements. A good rythmn is essential not too much over enthusiastic fast thrusting. As your girlfreind is aroused you can move up to more enthusiastic movement nearer to the end. If there are problems always love her and reassure her. There are medical reasons for painful sex but most of te time it is about poor technique, tension and the inability to relax. Your girlfriend must find her own sexuality and find what is right for her. Her whole body is a sexual organ. Find the pressure points and kiss them wrists, elbows, knees, where the bum goes in sensuality and sexuality. MMMMmmmmmm Good Luck.

the more sex you have the less it will hurt her.trust me I have done it before

Hi. Just read this post.
You might want to get your g.friend to head to the dr. I had most of these same symptoms. Sex was exceedingly painful for me .. and as a result I found it hard to relax (which made it worse), although the desire was there. Also I got wet very easily.
When I was preg the dr told me that I had an inverted (or was it tilted) uterus. One of the ligaments holding the uterus was too long. This condition causes a lot of discharge and very painful sex as a thrusting pen*s is jamming the uterus against a womans backbone. The pain was very sharp and breathtaking.
The dr. suggested doing it doggie style so I could controll the pain better. Also she mentioned that surgery to shorten may one day be an option.
As having more children would just restreach the ligament I'll find out more about surgery when I've had all the children I want. As for now.. after having my child.. sex is a lot less painful! Maybe my uturus changed shape and now the pen*s puzzle fits together a lot better.
Good luck

Hi I am only 12 and I have tried sex, but it hurts to much for me to go all the way. I have beem fingerd a couple of times and that doesn't hurt, infact it feels very nice. but im scared every time I have sex it is going to hurt. what do I do?

I've had a lot of sex and what I do is I smoke weed before or take pain killers so you can still feel the pleasure but you cant feel the pain. if I dont do either you just have to go threw it eventually the sex will feel so good it wont matter.

I am sorry to inform you, but your girlfriend might have an STD. There are lots of signs that you can tell. Like for one you said that she is have pain when you guys are having sex,and her being wet like that could be vagina discharge. I don't know but you should take her to go get tested right away, and ask the docter why is sex life painful? Good Luck!

Unfortunately, Im agreeing with Jessica. Your girlfriend might have an STD as some symptoms of several of STDs are vaginal discharge and pain during sex.

As mentioned in one of the comments above mine, love your girlfriend (as it may not be an STD but a medical problem) and have her go to a doctor. And just in case, get yourself tested. If you dont want to hurt her feelings, I suggest you get yourself first and not mention 'STD' to her... not until your test comes back positive.

Good Luck.
Emotive.

I would seek the advice of a OB/GYN it could be pelvic Immflamitory disease or HPV. If she has has other sexual partners I would for sure go to the doctors.

Sex is not supposed to hurt. I waited until I was married you neer know what you can get or what is going on no matter how well you know a person.

Good luck.

YOU HAVE PROBLEMS!
I don't know, do something about it,
probably have sex moree.