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my ex broke up with me about a month ago and I really like him a lot still. we barely started talking again and im really glad we have. but how do I get him to want me back ?
The only way to get him to want you back is to show him CONFIDENCE!! Show him that you KNOW that you dont deserve to be treated the way he treated you and that you wont settle for anything else. This type of confidence is so attractive to guys. BUT you really have to believe it. Know that you are worth the fight. Also, dont wait around for him. Be nice to him, but DATE other guys!! When you are in the same setting, talk and laugh with your friends, show him that you are not hurt. Why should you be hurt over a guy that doesnt see your great qualities when you KNOW there are so many guys that will! The second he sees that you have truly moved on, that's when he'll see that he screwed up. Trust me, they always come back if you show him this kind of confidence. But then, you have to ask yourself, do you really want to be with someone who only wants you when he doesnt have you? Really think about this question and when he comes back, dont jump back into his arms. Make him sweat it. MAKE SURE that this is not going to happen again and that he treats you the way you deserve!
Yes it's true, I really think that the best way to get an EX back is to BACK OFF COMPLETELY!!! No matter how hard it may be, what does not kill you only makes you stronger. Men are not attracted to women that come across as "desperate". Act as though you don't need him, and in actual fact YOU DON'T! No-one ever lost their respiratory system over a man! I'm also in a situation where my man only wants me when he doesn't have me, and I told him exactly what I feel. He's angry because he doesn't want to accept the fact that he needs to get his act together. Guess what, it's been 2 days and I have not heard from him at all and this is the first time that this has ever happened. Of course I'm hurting inside, but I'm not going to beg him or contact him in any way. That will only instill in him the MYTH that I cannot live without him. BULL! If I'm still living after all my past relationships, I can sure live with/without him. If he's not coming after me, he can go straight to HELL!!!
u CANNOT 'get him to want you back' if he wants u back then it will happen. BUT if the relationship isn't meant to be u cannot force it! I agree it depends on how long you were together and on why u broke up. ALTHOUGH in my experience stayign friends with your ex is making it harder for you to move on! Sometimes you have to accept that things are the past! By staying friends with your ex you are hanging on to each little bit of last hope there is, it is different to stay friends with your ex if you both only want friendship and nothing more but seeing as u are just looking for ways to get him back you are going to do nothing but hurt yourself.. sorry if thats nto what u wanted to hear, but its my opinionI've been in your shoes and by stayign friends so that you can get back with your ex you are not leeting yourself move on.
I think that the best way to get him to want you back is to just be yourself. If you were going out with him, then he already knows everything that he loves about you, so you don't need to do any tricks to make him attracted to you again. Try not to be too overbearing when you talk to him, because you don't want to do anything to scare him away. Be friends for a while, and feel him out.. see if he's still attracted to you or if he wants to be with you again. Only time will tell if you guys will end up back together. Good luck with everything, and i hope this helps :-)
Why did you break up ? and how long were you guys dating for ?
