How can i get him to say he loves me?

After 9 months, my boyfriend still hasn#039;t said he loves me. He shows me in a million ways, and is very good to me, but the words never come out. We are committed, see each other often, and I really think he does love me. Help--I keep being tempted...

to say it to him, but I want to hear it!

i am a guy and i say i love you to my girlfriend alot. however she cant say it back. i think its because people just don't want to say it. has he said it to anybody befour? ask him. find out. he is your boyfriend.

we men are afraid of rejection, everyone is through youre own i love you in after a kiss, he might get shocked the first time but keep at it, he'll either say he loves you or he isn't ready for you yet.

not to be the skeptic, but maybe he just doesn't, he may enjoy your company, care about you, but not love you. I was with a guy 3 years, lived together for 2 years and he never said it, all he ever said was I care about you deeply, and yes, I tried saying it to him, I tried being patient, I don't know how you can live, sleep, eat, and hold someone every day and not love them, but it happens.

I've seen this was posted over 5 years ago. but I still have to answer this. you can't force someone to do something they don't want to do or aren't ready for. you can't make someone love you.

see sweetheart if you really love him and he does not propose you this the only solution you need to be practical I mean you cannot hang in the middle of a relation there are 3 straight answers either he loves or doesnt or maybe confused in all these answers you can do one thing go to him and tel him frankly that you want a true meaning of your relation with your guy if he still acts in that way the only thing you can do is call for a break up it sounds harsh but trust me men will only realise what they feel for there girl when she walks out and if he doesnt seem to bother about you than instead of breaking down think in a positive that atleast in the end you dint make a fool of yourself and walked out with dignity and remember one thing there are many fishes in water
good luck

Mouth 'Colourful' to him across the room

..xX

you can\t get him to say I love you.
you have to wait til he's good and ready to tell you.
if you pressure him into saying it, who knows.
you may lose him, just let things take their course and you should be good to go

Some people just find saying I love you very difficult. My partner virtually never tells me he loves me and we have been together over seven years. I know he does though, because he shows his love to me in so many ways. What's the big deal about getting someone to say it? If they love you you will know it.

IF HE DONT SAY IT IS BECAUSE HE IS FACK.DONT WAST YOUR TIME GIRL.TACK YOUR TIME THERE IS NO RUSH FOUR PERFECTION. THE MORE YOU WHAT THE BETTER WAY YOU COULD FIND SOME ONE HU LOVES YOU.

in my opinion don't think you can force someone to say they love you, maybe you can well, I guess he wont say it until he makes sures that he really does luv u

give him time if he luvs you he'll say it. in the mean time stop rushing it!

hes just not that into you get the book ... I am a woman it helps... he may love you but hes not in love with you... theres a difference.

if you actually love him... tell him how you feel regardless of who is first then the truth comes out because if you are really honest with him he will know it and he will open up to you too

Hmmm.
I have dated maybe too many guys (started at 17 and once married, widowed and back to dating- middle aged. I am dating someone I consider myself to love. However, like you, found he doesn't say it to anyone. Now, theres a hum dinger as in all my years of dating- this is the first time this has ever happened to me. It hurts. so all these post saying that its all how he treats you that matter. Well, if you have talked about it, then prehaps they know they are hurting you. Prehaps the one guy has it right about fearing that the three little words means you have to commit to a much larger scenario. I don't know. All I know, I don't particularly like the emotional pain, as I put my emotions out there, and hope not to get hurt. He obviously likes to live in a protective life style, risking less. He does all the right things, and says he is into me- even list every single thing that he likes about me. But unfortunately I wonder- how can a man make love to you over and over, commiting their body - and not be able to risk their emotions. Is he a sociopath? am I crazy for staying? If I had not dated enough, I probably would not have known this behavior is not normal. Like I said, the first guy ever. I keep thinking- who the heck messed him up, why did he build a wall.

To the woman above me, I would suggest stopping the physical part of your relationship until you sus out whether he genuinly loves you. If you are in doubt you should ask yourself why the doubt.

You can't make someone say they love you. That's being forceful and impatient. If you really loved this person, you would let it come naturally. Other then asking for advice on a website where there are strangers hearing out your situation. Things like this cannot be forced, you have to wait. If you wait longer, then it'll only mean so much more.

love can never be forced.. then it would be fake.He'll tell you when hes ready!

Guys are scared to sya it becuase they feel that you might not feel the same way. But just say to him I LOVE YOU. Sometimes you have to do the work for him if hes shy. If you say it , he'll say it!

ask him if dose and why he dose not say

he might be saying the same thing he could just be scared you might not say it back or maybe you don't want to use those words yet. but I bet you money if you tell him you love him he will reply I love you too and y'all will smile and hug and kiss and stuff :D haha