How can i control my jealousy?

I get jealous sooo friggin easily. my boyfriend is amazing and deep down I know hes not cheating on me, but hes like reallly hot and even when im standing right next to him girls will come up and start flirting with him and he doesnt flirt back but I get...

worried that he might flirt when im not around so I got my friends to spy on him and all these girls were hitting on him and he told them he had a girfriend and then he walked away. and even though hes been loyal, I still get jealous!! I feel so self centered. I talk to him about it all the time and how I feel hes too good for me but he says why would I flirt with another girl when I've already got the most amazing girl on earth? and gah I dont know hes just so sweet and awesome but I've even gotten on his myspace to check to see what he says to other girls and he hasnt cheated. I seriously cant contral myself anymore. I cry myself to sleep every single night and im so ashamed of myself for being this way. why cant I just trust him?? :'(

and its not just about that I get jealous. I get jealous of other girls because I feel theyre so much more gorgeous than me and stuff. and just other random stuff I get jealous about... pretty much everything. lmao

p.s. theres some pictures of my boyfriend and me on my profile.

honey!! all you have to do is just not worry about it.
seriously. The key to controlling your jealousy is not making yourself better, or trying to find a way to get what you want... ALL you have to do is sit down, and think about what you HAVE. I had the same problem. And I'm not perfect, but when I look in the mirror, I love what I see. Not because I think I look attractive, but simply because I feel comfortable in my own skin. It was so hard to get where I am right now, because just two years ago I anorexia, and I was extremely depressed. I thought that if I didnt look like my pretty friends or the girls I saw in magazines, then I wouldn't get anywhere in life or be happy. With a little help from my best friend, I got over my self-esteem issues, and realized that my friends and people I cared about were extrememly worried about me. They didn't care about what I looked like, if I had a small waist, how much I ate, how clear my skin was, how my hair looked... none of those mattered. When I talk to my friends (the real ones) they look at me straight in the eyes, and they listen to what I have to say. They arent busy looking at my hair or braces, or anything else... They see me for me. I didnt have a boyfriend, I had no self-esteem, My grades were hitting rock bottom, parents nagged me, rumors circled about me, and I cried myself to sleep very often. I basically lived everyday just to get by, and make it to the nexxt day to get it all over with again. Time flew by me like nothing. Days became weeks as weeks became months. I wasnt getting any better. I was still steadily losing weight (70 lbs at 5'0 is extremely underweight). All I thought about was being thin and looking good. I would fast for about 3 days at a time, eating only a nutrigrain bar inbetween and taking my vitamins. My grades werent getting any better, because I was so apathetic about school and everything. Well, my grades are still not perfect, but I feel really great about myself. I realized that the sexiest part about a woman is nothing you can look at, but simply something you can watch. Its her confidence. Anyone with confidence can have friends, love, and happiness. I hold my head high, and I dont give a crap about what other people think about me. I yell and laugh with my friends in the halls. I make mistakes sometimes. And I get dressed in the dark. LOL! I have pimples sometimes, but I still dont wear my make-up. The reason no one nbotices it, is because I'm comfortable and confident. Smile, and youll feel better. JUST WATCH!

UM. HELLO??? your super pretty!!! he loves you! do you need to stand next to the rest of the world to see that your just like us?? pretty. and you have nothing to worry about. he OBVIOUSLY lOVES YOU. chill out with the jealousy thing. that can ruin a whole relationship. trust me I know.

yes he obviously loves you!! soo dont worry too much.. because crying about it and nagging about it all the time would just annoy him, but most importantly try not to be too jealous because it would push him away...

p.s.
be confident with yourself, dont put yourself down and think other girls are prettier than you.
you have to trust your b/f because if he doesnt love you then he wouldnt be with you. he is with you because obviously there is something about you that he sees that isnt in other girls.

and plus what you can do to stop crying at night. get your boyfriend to write a letter and take a big picture of him (but not in a creppy way.)and put it in a fram and do the same to the picture. and place it by your bed. read it every night befor you go to bed. and let his face be the last thing you see. AND trust. tell him to MEAN every last singel word of what he writes. p.s. hope I helped. love ~~harmony~~