How can I confront my best friend with this huge problem?

my best friends for 5 years got a boyfriend. We are three in this clique. the problem is this best friend of ours got a boyfriend and with the boyfriend cam new friend(specifically boys) who talk to her just because shes going out with the guy. So now her life revovles around boys and is starting to ditch me and my other friend for them. she would make plans with us and not go without calling. This girl is not just a friend. We've been best friends since 5 years ago. We know each other like ying and yang. But me and my other best friend fell like it is the downfall of our threesome frienship. We've given her a chance before so many times but knowwe feel like our friend is taking your for granted. We feel like she thinks we will always be there, wich we were but we are not her advice machines that she can come to every now and then for advice and ditch us for other people. After along time of being annoyed we decided to give her 1 strike per big mistake. Shes made 2 in 3 days. should we confront her now or later on when another strike comes and me and my other friends snaps? How do we talk to her about it. she may talk to her another firends about it and they might think we are jealouse of her thats why we are doing this. what should I do?

I think your friend needs a wake up call. You should confront her and tell her how you feel and why you feel this way. From your post it sounds like the damage has already been done but without truly talking about it to her she might not be aware of what she is doing to your friendship. People sometimes change and sometimes we loose friendships because people choose different paths. But if we don't talk about it, we aren't truly giving people the option to choose what they really need and want in their lives.

She has the right to have new friends and spend time with these people without you but, you shouldn't be feeling like she is using you or taking you for granted. Friendships are based of trust and effort by both parties to understand and respect eachother. One thing that she does need to know is that a good friend will always be around through the ups and downs in life as well as the multiple boyfriends. It sounds like she has to recongnize who her true friends are and not just be charmed by the new attention from other people that might let her down if her relationship ends.

As for what other poeple might say, ignore it. Afterall, your friendship is between her and you. They have no business judging you or your friendship.

I think you should sit down with her alone and pick a place where you will not be distrubed. Explain to her your feelings and tell her that it is not jealousy but rather feelings of being used and taken for granted. The only way to fix this is by talking about it. Things might work out in the end or you might need to take your distance but it's worse just to snap wihtout having tried to explain what lead up to your reaction.

Only communication and time will help you understand if this friendship is worth keeping and on what terms.

Good luck!

If you feel that she only calls you both when she needs advice then you need to explain to her how you feel. Explain that you dont want to sound immature but she is really hurting your feelings. Tell her that you are so happy for her that she has found a boyfriend and some new friends and thats not the issue at all, ask her why she doesnt invite you guys out with her and her new friends? and why she always dogs you guys. boyfriend's come and go but friends are for life and she needs to realise that before she loses her best friends, because when it all hits the fan and she needs her true friends you may not be there.

Well hey guesse what I've been threw this too and I just told my friend straight out.. Who's it going to be the gurlz who have been with you threw your ups & downs or the guy you met and is going to leave you any day..
I think you should tell her that and even though you stop talking to her she's going to come back to you

<3 jenny