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Help with family/cultural problems...please!!
Help with family/cultural problems...please!!
My family and I moved from india 3 years ago when I was 12(preteen).and as I grew older,they started 2 control me too much and they always keep telling me what to do and they also tell me I've changed a lot which I already know but to me,change is...
normal.
Heres what my family does(sry its a very long list):
-I'm not allowed 2 wear anything that shows my knees
-not allowed 2 wear make up 2 school(not ever eyeliner or mascara)
-not allowed to im,have facebook or myspace etc.(had 1 behind their bac but I didnt know my bro had bugged my computer and he found out and told on me)
-cant babysit after 10pm
-cant b close 2 boys(but I have best frnds that are guys and we hug...)
-cant have crushes(but they cant stop me frm havin crushes)
-cant talk 2 my frnds abt boys or their relationships
-cant hang out w/my frnds
-wont get me texting
-no privacy...(and I mean I totally dont have any privacy)
-cant go 2 school dances(I'm in high school now and I'm cant go 2 school dances or prom)
-wont let me play sports cause they uniforms r'nt decent or convering (oh yea...I'm not allowed 2 wear sleeveless shirts either)
-cant do beauty stuff(ex.wax eyebrows, professional manicure or pedicure etc.)...but I do these stuff myself...
-cant wear bikinis,monokins,or tankinis...so I've been in u.s. For 3 years and so I never went 2 the pool or the beach...
-cant talk 2 frnds on phone(tats the new rule...they think I'll get exploited)...thats bull***
-no concerts or parties(not ever b'day parties)...no sleepovers...cant go 2 frnds' house...I cant invite them 2 my house either...
-wont let me tel them how I feel(they ask me wats going on in my mind and when I start tellin them, they start argueing and yelling at me and they always expect me 2 live by their way!!!...its like livin in a communist country...I cant express my thoughts)
-every decision I wanna make,I have 2 ask my parents and my brother...its realy frustrating knowin that every1 has control over your life and decisions but u...
-they say family is always 1st and friends are not important(which I completely disagree with...2 me,both friends and family are very important)
-cant listen 2 songs like donk(soulja boy),or hips dont lie(shakira)...they think they're bad
-no dating(not even indian boys)...have 2 b arranged married...which I'm not gonna...I'd rather go my whole life not being married rather than marrying sum dumbass I dont even know
-cant go 2 college outta city...(ex. If I live in roanoke,va,I cant go 2 college in charlottesville,va...and if I go outta state,my mom says she'll move w/me cause they place she works has a company in like every city)...cant stay in dorms
-not allowed 2 move out till I'm married
-cant drive 2 school(I have 2 wait till I go 2 college)
The worst part is that I dont even have anyone 2 talk 2 abt tis...its realy depressing because they werent like this when I was in india...I was allowed 2 have frnds over and stuff...when I ask them why they wont let me do it anymore, they say because when you were in india,u were a girl...now,u are a fine young woman(I did hit puberty after movin 2 us)...I just wish theyd giv me a chance 2 prove them I'm rite...they always tel me that I've changed but the truth is just that I've stopped livin my life their way...
(sry abt the long list and shortening of words...)
P.s.
I'm not allowed 2 join the armed forces...I dont have any relatives nearby...and I'm not allowed to go 2 the movies w/my frnds either...
I'm not getting married yet...my parents are gonna wait till I finish college but when I do get married, my parents think its going 2 b arranged by them(which means they choose who I marry etc.)
Please help me!!!what do I do?!?!?!
And yesterday I got into a huge arguement w/my family b/c of they wont let me go 2 the park w/my best frnd and wont even get 2 know her and giv me a chance...and now my mom and I havent talked 4 a whole day...how do I start talkin 2 her again???