Under stress and having trouble with my parents

Im under a lot of stress lately, it has been hard falling asleep too. In my family is mom and dad, me also(duhh). My parents, probably stopped loving or having any feeling for each other a long time ago. So of couse there will be bickering, but most of the time they would fight over somthing soo stupid. In the end I would get blamed, most of the time it's probably my fault. Every day I am forced between the two of them, my mom thinks that im favoring dad she calls us crazy and retarted. My dad, is wayy to explosive, and seems to try to hide from his problems and he never seems to listen to anyone. saying things like"she's just a child, what the hell would she know" . typically when I said anything that how he would feel about it. at this point im more consirned about my sanity then who I think is my "favorite" at this point I am starting to not like either.

What schould I do to make life easier for all of us im sick of feeling like im on Survivor having to make allies and stupid stuff I just don't think this is the way a family schould live HELp!

Maybe you should ask them for dinner or something, and then tell them how you feel.

This is very difficult to deal with and I think it is wonderful that you are trying to keep the family as a whole, but since you said they stopped loving each other some time back that will be hard to do. Do you know God, and do you pray, then you know what to do. You do not then you may need to find some outside help. It may help to write each of them a letter telling them your feelings and your fears. Do it on the computer, print it out and leave it in an envelope, one for each. And go to a friends hour for three hours. As soon as you get there call to make sure they got their copy.

There are a lot of possibilities that could help you and this is only one. What I would do is to find a church that has a family counselor and get help from them.

My family and I will pray for you and your family, and we will help you as much as we can. Contact me if wish.

Anti-prep,
First off..It is not your responsibility to make sure your parents love eachother and get along and are happy.
Remember...They made the choice to bring you in to this world..They should be the ones trying to make your life happy..helping you as parents would, like school work..or planning a fun vacation etc...Especially at your age, you should not have the sort of stress in your life that you are currently struggling with. The big question is what to do?? From now on I want you to understand that your parents problems are totally out of your control..This is why you have the stress, because you can't control the situation and of course you want to say a few words to them and have it be all better.
If you can understand that this thing is out of your control this (I believe) will help you. Try and find good friends and spend time at their house..hang out with them..Make up in your mind today that you are going to start enjoying your life..You could sit both of your parents down and explain to them how you love them both the same etc..or you could say it in a letter..sometimes this is more effective. But let them know YOU are moving on with you life. There are also many many learning experiences here for you..You are learning how NOT to live and act with your spouse..You are learning how NOT to raise your child etc.. The great thing about your problem is that you have the ability to change it for you..not for anyone else..Of course we want your parents to be happy and maybe they will..however this is not your responsibility.. From today on your responsibility is you...You make choices that make you happy first and then those around you..This (by the way) is not being selfish it is simply taking care of you..which is the most important thing...Start enjoing and have fun!! If you want to funmail me go ahead.
Familycoach

Sorry you're going through rough times right now, know 2 things: 1) it is NOT your fault 2) this too will pass - you might consider writing a letter to each explaining exactly how you feel, how they're making you feel, etc - pour everything into it - hopefully it'll grab their attention and bring about some improvement...you're in my thoughts and prayers.

thanks for the support it's shocking that one can find so much heart in a bunch of strangers I have never met. This is just one thing I need to realize I can't control. I don't want to feel like the rope in this game of tug-o-war, so it would be best just to lead my own life and not be pulled between two others. Usally I hate summer break cause I'd be stuck at home with the two of them, and found refuge in music and god. ( and a little in this site . But now I think I can enjoy it (summer break) a little knowing this isn't all really my fault.