Help me please with bands

Does anyone know any bands preferably screamo and emo that is good to listen to expressing pain, hurt, depression, destruction, and even lust? No metal though.
Like I want music either slow sweet soft and depressing. Also I want emo screamo songs that...

are depressing, deep, lyrical, about pain someone went through, maybe destructive and maybe lustful.

I think Death Cab For Cutie and Dashboard Confessional are emo. Right?

secondhand serenade is a good one thats soft. blue october;s hate me is a good soft one. my chemicl romance
the used red jumpsuit aparatus
here are some bands and the songs that sing bout something that happened and its screamo but its kinda heavy but you might check it out still
ice nine kills - greatest story ever told
bloodsimple falling backwards
breaking benjamin - until the end - diary of jane - firefly

You can try some hard rock, I hope they do help

Three days grace - gone forever, time of dying, riot
Disturbed - down with the sickness, stricken, stupefied, the game, get pyscho, inside the fire
Breaking Benjamin - Dance with the devil, dairy of Jane, the unknown soldier, follow me
System of a down - Ego Brain, Stream
Korn - Souvenir, 10 or a 2 way, love song, throw me away
12 stones - far away
30 seconds to mars - Attach
Green day - Desensitized
Saliva - separate self
Linkinpark - Paper cut
Papa Roach - Getting away with murder
Apocalyptic ft Adam Gontier(from three day grace) - I don't care
Drowning pool - Love and war