I am chinese and my boyfriend is muslim

Hi I am having a serious problem. Please HELP ME!! I am a chinese and my boyfriend a malay. We have been together for 4 years. But my mother has been objecting me and him and wanted to disown me he I convert to islam. I am in a difficult situation, can I don't convert to islam. For me I think is all in my heart I do trust ad believe in islam. I know my mother dosen't want me to covert because she don' want me to suffer. a lot of things that islam and other religion cannot accept. I don't mind practicing islam for my mother's sake and my relative around me. It is very selfish of me doing all this. But can anyone out there hel me. I am in a very difficult situation!! my mother is also very strong in her religion. I don't understand why because of a religion they have to put me such a situation. I believe there are someone out there having this situation too. My boyfriend is a very good guy you really have to know him then you will know what I am saying. I am now very frustrated I really don't know what to do... His parents are very understanding and they love me. My boyfriend dosen't want me to be in such a difficult situation and he dosen't force me he just ask me to learn more about their religion. If I think that islam is not a religion for me he won't force me and let me be back myself and will be friends.

merriemac and Ty are right. asian parents have their own ways in life. My parents are the type that think if your a certain race, go for that race. like for marriage they always say get a filipino. but it's not their choice, its all yours. My brother always told me 'do what you gotta do' Sometimes in life you gotta take risk, if your heart says you want to be that religion then be it.
But you have to remember, it won't be easy. For you and your mom.

there are lots of people who go through hard times all because of religion
in the end, follow your heart
if you love this guy, be with him
if you want to be islam, then do
your mother should learn to accept you for who you are
im not saying she will though,
because a lot of religiouse people are stuborn
but its your life
your not doing anything thats affecting your health, ect
your not doing anything wrong.

Hahahahahaha some people don't understand how asian parents get I see.
Well, guess what, your mom probably won't accept you for who you are because she's not a WHITE parent.

I'm asian, I know.
Most are all about reputation.

I say, FORGET ABOUT YOUR MOM. because your boyfriend is making her look like a bad person. So try what your boyfriend SUGGEST since he's not forcing you in anyway.

I know that my mother is concern about my life. For myself I think that this is my life I am the one who is going to spent my life with not her.

I accept islam as a good religion, I really hope that my mother shouldn't be selfish. I wish that she will understand me. Not because he is different religion from me different color from me and disowned me just like that. Why can't she think that I am her daughter how can she say things like this to hurt me.

She say I don't respect her but I respect her I even quarrel with my boyfriend and wanted to break-up just because I don't want my mother to be sad. But why can't she think out of the box, she know that my boyfriend is a good guy is only of his religion that is why she don't wan me to be with him.

She told me that I will find somene who is the same color as me and same religion better than my boyfriend.

If I want to find someone like him can my mother Guarantee that I will find someone like him or better than him in the future.

If one day he were to married a chinese and they are very happy together, very loving I will regret that I let him go. I let go my happiness and I married someone of the same religion and same color ending up divorcing...

Will my mother like to see this happening, she should be happy that I found the guy I love.

He is a patient guy, a kind and the man that I am always looking for. No doubt that he is a muslim, everything dosen't comes perfect.

When it comes to asian parents, they have this thing about marrying from your own culture and other people arent to be trusted... Nothing you say or show will change her mind on that (my mother is the same way...)

Why cant she see past it all and realize that she is hurting you? Well two reasons, she thinks she is protecting you, and she also wants to protect her own image and reputation (no it isnt fair, but it is the way it works). Romantic love is simply not practical to them, and they believe a marriage is more than that...

I see no harm in looking into Islam... Once you decide on what will make you happy, then you can talk to your mother... she has specific fears and thoughts, try and get to the root of it... 'he is muslim' is not good enough, ask exactly what problem she has with it...I would keep talking to her, she may never come around and be happy about it, but she may eventually accept it...

well, im a muslim. if you're getting married with him, you have to convert to islam. its just a rule in islam. if you want to marry him that is. but you do whatever you want to do. im just saying.

Hi thanks all for the answers that you have given me. For me I think islam is the religion that I trust. Its not about him that I think islam is the right choice for me, I have read about islam about christian and other religion. What I believe most is christainity and islam. I talk to my mother lots of time and we will ended up quarrel, my mother have a very bad temper. She dosen't agree with me always, she always think she is right. But I think both of us have our own opinion. I come from a divorce family, I know she did all this scolding for my own good. I know up ahead things will not be smooth. Everything in life is not smooth, it is not your religion is about we ourself.