Help me get over my ex!!

It#039;s been almost 3 years now and I can#039;t seem to get over my ex-boyfriend. It#039;s kind of silly when I think about it, because it was only a six-month relationship. He came into my life after a rough period, like he was an angel, he made...

me a much better person. I was the happiest I have ever been, still to this day. He truly was a great guy, the exact kind of guy that I will one day want to marry. We broke up, for a reason that is still unknown. But, I#039;m left here without closure. For a year and a half, I did nothing but dwell on him and what things would#039;ve been. Until, I decided to start dating again. I#039;ve been dating this one guy for a year and two months now, and I still can#039;t get my ex off of my mind. I don#039;t know what the problem is. It was only six months. Just recently, I heard that he is dating someone new now, and that she could be quot;the onequot; for him. I was crushed and devastated. But, I remembered that I have my own boyfriend. I don#039;t know what to do. Either I need to get over him,quickly, or I need to get him back..some way, some how. It is very important. I need to move on at some point, but I can#039;t without my own closure. What should I do? Please help.

you need to talk to him about what happend, it does not matter how long it has been, you need to talk about it if its closer you need, get it and if you can't. you will be hurting your-self from what it was never, then whats going on now

to think about othr things, try think of your man you get now think about how he makes you feel...

I feel like you cant get over your ex because he helpped you out so much in your time of need, you might feel like you owe him, and love him from how much he had helpped you

I felt like that when me men and I broke up.. I was crushed.. then he asked me to help him hook up with my best friend... I was so crushed.. and I had another boyfriend too.. but I still loved my ex.. I can sortta understand.. but I would love to help out more if you will let me, so please fun mail me

I would love to knoe how everything turns out ok?[keep me informmed]

I know how you feels? few years ago,I couldn't get over my EX. But,then I got over her because she was trying me. But,then again My older sis told me she Miss me a lot.Is it because I stop giving her attention and got over her lol?

I agree with sleddawg what about us guys?

I know how you feel I just got out of relationship like that I purposed to her and everything then we broke up, honestly just find someone new that is almost like him but not to where your going to think about him all the time, its very hard I feel your pain I have a lot more advice if you would reply and message me I could help you a lot more I'm kinda tired of typing lol please message

well I'm kindof in the same sitiation ( sorry bout speeling) and I met this boy and he made me a better person and he made my day and we broke up for no reason and it was also a rough time as I broke up with my long time boyfriend and I jsut fell for him fast! then after we broke up I rushed back into my relationsihip with my ex and weve been together 6 month and tbh I still miss him so mutch maby you should try calin him?

Hey I've been there almost the same situation even and let me tell you its been 3 and a half years know I still love him but theres a reason he is in my past and not in my future remember that something better will come

I'd like to know how to get over my ex too =[

but seriously, just ask why you guys broke up and ull know.

Heartbreak… we all suffer from this and handle it differently some of us can let go, others still hang on to the if only…

Back in 2000 I met a guy who I was sure would want to spend the rest of his life with me although we were only together for 9 months he was my first boyfriend and first love. At first I wasn’t sure then one day he sent me a message quote “I don’t want to lose you now or ever” at that moment my heart opened up and I let this guy in my heart and my feelings became stronger for him. As I became emotionally attached to him he became distant. He would not show when he promised to meet, it hurt me so much not seeing him I found myself crying every night. Then one day I decided I can’t let this guy get to me why should I be wasting so many tears on him, so I listened to the head and not the heart to end things with him (via txt). It was so upsetting, he didn’t ask me why. I realised I had made the biggest mistake in my life I cried even more. I called him and asked for him back but he said quote “why do I want to” Yes I cried even more I tried writing to him but no reply. For the past 8 years I have had many men interested in me but I always think of him. I am not sure why I question myself is it because the way we broke up that haunts me (no closure) and I was very naïve to do it via txt (remorse I didn’t do it face to face) or I feel that I have never loved anyone the way I loved him so how can I move on? My heart can’t let go off something that doesn’t belong to me even thou I know he is not the one.

After 8 years and thanks to the network sites I have found him. He is getting married soon and has been with his partner straight after me. I feel happy for him a bit sad for myself. I think if I had just hung on it could have been me, but then I think we have different lives and marriage is not what I want. I have been contemplating on sending him a message to make peace do you think it’s a good idea?

So if you’re wondering does time make the heart heal yes and no a part of you will always think of him. If you truly think that this guy is going to make you happy and he too wants what you want then go for it otherwise leave it to fate.

huni, I know exactly what our going through. it my have only been 2 months for me but my ex is over me already and has a girlfriend. it kills me when I see them together but, I still want to be with him and am still madly in love with him. I dont want him to break up with her because I want him. I want him to break up with her because he wants to. I know it wont happen and I know closure is one thing I really desperatly want. try keeping a diary. write all your thinking in it, soon, you may become tired of talking about him constantly. thats what im trying
good luck
xxx

You got to start dating others and keep busy.

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This post is a littler longer than normal, but please bear with me. I need some help.
My situation is very strange; I was married to a woman for 10 years. She is 4 years older than me, she is now 42 and I am 38. She already had 3 kids when we met, and had tied her self up so she could not have more kids naturally. I have always wanted to have kids but she showed me she really was a wonderful woman and we decided to get married and try the in-vitro fertilization to have kids. And up we go.
The thing is we tried it for 2 year, but then we found out that she had others complications on top of the surgery she already had, and she would not be able to have more kids. So I decided to stay with her anyway, but I was felling everyday more and more unhappy because I wanted to have my own family, my own kids, and every day I was felling more miserable, more lonely, and the thought that I wasting the best years of my life, but she was a great woman, love me a lot, and I did not wanted to hurt her either because she was always so good to me.
She now has 3 grandkids on top of the 3 kids she already had, and I just could not take it anymore. I decided to end the marriage and move on with my life, give me the chance to realize my dreams, to get the things that I always wanted out of life, a family.
I have to say I was never sure if I really loved her, because I was never really happy with her, I always had other thoughts on my mind. And I new I never would be happy if I did not give me a chance to find my dreams.
The first 2 months were very hard because it was 10 years together and I missed her, but I stand by my decision. Now 7 months have happened and I was fine, doing my things, and the pain was almost gone. I was ok.
But now I recently find out that she is dating someone else, and is killing me. I never knew somebody could feel anything like this. I feel lonely, desperate, thinking about her all the time, wondering if I made the right decision, if I should try to get her back, wondering how she can love somebody else (and that makes me feel egotistical). The pain is almost unbearable. I do not know what to do. I am still very sure about what I want in my life, and it is not to come back with her. I dot not want to get back to the life I had with her, but it hurt so much inside, this pain is killing me, I can not even work anymore, please somebody help me, what do I do? I feel like I can no take the pain anymore…

hey. same happened with me. but me and my ex went out for 8 months and its been 2 years and I cant get over him. im trying to m ove on but it just feels wrong. the thing is its really hard to get over someone you truly loved. you still need more time. dont push urself to do it. talk to your boyfriend about it. let him make you feel better, let him show you the caring side of him which might lead you to forgetting your ex. my advice is dont tell your ex. if he moved on that means he got over it. your strong. if you managed to live for 3 years of a broken heart then you can do it now and get over him. think of him a beautiful past and experience. open your heart to your boyfriend.
I made this qoute after me and my ex broke up:
Don't look back and remember the past, life moves on and broken hearts wont last.
I wish you best of luck. and I wish my answer was somehow helpful.

I've been down this road before and it does hurt. I'm thinkin you might be so attached 2 him because you n him got 2getha while you was going thru a ruff time in your life.so wit you being with him around that time and him being there 4 u, of course your feelings are going 2 be strong 4 him. Now on the subject of you not being able 2 move on even tho you have a boyfriend and he has a new girl, might be because you felt that you had a betta connection wit him then you do your new dude... but... but but but but but I'm not sayin you should still dwell ova him ecspecially if you haven't a clue why he broke up wit you in the 1st place. Just think you may have someone just as good mayb even better but ull neva know because your holdin on 2 old feelings and holdin back the new 1s

first of all... you need to figure out why he is an ex.. because there is a reason.. a lot of people don't remember the bad times they had in that relationship and they feel that an ex is someone comfortable... if it didn't work out, there is a reason.. find that out then go from there..

if you've been with this other guy for so long you need to figure out if you do honestly like him and if you will ever love him.. if not, stop wasting his time so he can find someone that will truly love him...

well getting over someone is never easy but to be honest I say you try to get him back and if things were really as great as you thought they were hen hell come back to you and if they wernt then they werent

I'm not sure really if everyone goes through this but I do know that you're not the only one. I'm kind of in the same situation. I just go on with life as if he was never part of it. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but it's better than dwelling on what won't happen I suppose.

oh,

Obviously, when I heard my ex was dating a nice lady, a lawyer, I got right back into wondering what I could learn about her, etc. I can't get it out of my mind. My boyfriend is a great guy, but since the spark -- the passion, is not there, it only makes it worse. Get out and find someone who sweeps you off your feet. Don't settle for less than great love, because the guy will always be in your mind, and you won't think about what a jerk he really was.

go see a therapist... then you r playing with your NEW boyfriend and it seems unfair if you can't get your mind over your ex you're just using the new guy to feel a little less depressed, then if he has a new girlfriend maybe just maybe he is moving on with his life why don't you the same? stop being so selfish it's a lack of respect for you to think so much in your ex if you have been dating this guy for over a yr. it's over now just get over it and understand it it ended for a reason.

uh. I'm going through the same thing. so all of you commenting aren't the only ones out there. I always feel so stupid when my friends and family are like quit being dumb you guys are over get over it! but for some reason I cant. Why does all the bad stuff happen to us girls? I love the old saying life for us girls is a big sh** sandwich and we all have to take a bite. isn't that true!? ha ha

well...dont try to make him jelouse...hmm...just make shure your friends with him...and try doing more sports or activity to do it will get your mind off of him.