Help me get over my ex!!

It#039;s been almost 3 years now and I can#039;t seem to get over my ex-boyfriend. It#039;s kind of silly when I think about it, because it was only a six-month relationship. He came into my life after a rough period, like he was an angel, he made...

me a much better person. I was the happiest I have ever been, still to this day. He truly was a great guy, the exact kind of guy that I will one day want to marry. We broke up, for a reason that is still unknown. But, I#039;m left here without closure. For a year and a half, I did nothing but dwell on him and what things would#039;ve been. Until, I decided to start dating again. I#039;ve been dating this one guy for a year and two months now, and I still can#039;t get my ex off of my mind. I don#039;t know what the problem is. It was only six months. Just recently, I heard that he is dating someone new now, and that she could be quot;the onequot; for him. I was crushed and devastated. But, I remembered that I have my own boyfriend. I don#039;t know what to do. Either I need to get over him,quickly, or I need to get him back..some way, some how. It is very important. I need to move on at some point, but I can#039;t without my own closure. What should I do? Please help.

Wow! I am glad to know that I am not the only one who still is thinking about the ex. My ex and I dated for 5 years, but have not talked in 4 years. He is still on my mind and I do compare the new boyfriend to him, which is not fair (although we have recently broken up after 4 years together and I believe that not being able to let go of the past played a part. I gave it my all in this new relationship and did not contact the ex even though I wanted to. He was just the opposite of the ex and I thought that is what I needed)

In the end all I can say is the heart wants what it wants. When that kind of love comes again I think that then I will know and finally be able to leave the past in the past. (I just hope it comes quick because 30 is just around the corner!!!)

it took me a year to forget my boyfriend but if there's one thing I've learned in life : it goes on. so go ahead and forget that guy and try someone new. ya know wut socrates said? the hottest love has the coldest end. but its time to end it.

In reality it's letting go that makes you stronger. I met a guy from NY I live in GA and I tried harder in this 8 month relationship than any other been through more it feels like I been with him for 5 years. he always finding flaws in me putting me down and kept telling me I'm not the one for him then he will call me constantly telling me he loves me and a bunch of fluff but always want to see me basically for cheap thrills. I can't deal with it anymore emotionally so I changed all my numbers 2 days ago and I'm hurting but I do know this; Every asshole in the world say's he loves somebody. Means nothing. What'chu feel only matters to you, it's what'chu do to the people you say you love - that's what matters it's the only thing that counts. For each ending theres always a new beginning. Loniness gets the best of me at night my mind play tricks on me and I try not to think of him but my mind just won't behave. I keep in mind at first he said that he love me and never going to leave me but now I see that he is a liar. When I'm ready cause my feelings are getting stronger he decided to retire. look in the mirror better yourself when your ready allow your ex to c you for the natural star you r...trust me it's hard but I feel as though if I'm worth holding onto I wouldn't be so easy to be disposed. I know silence no communication hurts the other party more than you think about all the girls or dudes you dated in the past who lusted after u (fans) you rejected when they stop reaching out to you or you stop seeing them you sort of miss them..I only c hurt between dude (NY)and I so I let him be he already told me all I need to know with his bi-polar self. I still love everything about him even his flaws with the exception of the mind games and juggling my heart...in my scenario I had to close this chapter but if you want to be friends (something I'm 2 weak to do if I truly love the person, I don't want 2 know when they fall in love or have kids) just ignore them for a week or so and in that time do all you can to wow them when you meetup for lunch ;-) and play hard to get and don't say you missed them or love them first keep saying me 2..hope I helped someone.

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Would of, could of, should of...will not get you anywhere...the obsession will kill you before anything else...whatever happened, happened...if anything take a look at ones self and see what part you had in it...good or bad...all you can do is learn from it...things in life happen for a reason. If it were meant to be it would have been...Time will heal all and this to shall pass...

im not over my ex boyfriend yet either!

did you know that I have post a question entitle 'does man have love as a feeling?'...that question posses to an answer of ---I CANT GET OVER WITH MY EX!

welll possibly the only reason your close to him is because he came to you when you needed someone the most. he had been the one to come but the thing is it was only 6 months and to you it probably met the whole world but to him it could of been diffou have.erent . dont get me wrong he could of been happy to . good things are not ment to last forever and when it finally ends it makes you miss what you had and how things used to be. the best thing to do is remember that you have a new man and your happy with him too. sure he dosent have everything your ex had but he can be just as could . the sad thing about all this is im 12 years old And im as wise as I can be .

Hun,im still gettin over my ex that lasted 11 months.I wud help.

yeah I could relate to that!.. thats the same thing happened to me with my first boyfriend!
the same thought is in my mind as yours, I thought that he was the one, he was an angel to me at that time, he help me make it thru a lot of problems, and the sad part again,we broke up for no reason. at first I kept on crying every night cause I dont know how to spend my life without him anymore, you know we've been together everyday but when we broke up everything fell apart! I was even asking his cousin about the thing that I can do to have him back, but still there's no use.. I was also afraid before that I could not move on..I was really really really down and upset!! im desperate enough to do anything for him... it was just lately when I realized that if the guy does not really want you anymore there's no thing that you could do to have him back..no matter what damn you give and to show everyone that you really want him back!!..
the thing that I do during those moments, I just opened up my heart again..and to accept the fact that he is not mine anymore.. thats the lesson I've learned..
we have to be optimistic,and just be patient,and understanding..

I do know there's somenone better than him for you..

like what happened to me..

Hey...well I feel you I been through the same as you have I went out with my first boyfriends and first love for 3months and when we broke up it was devastating to me I thought I would never love anyone as I did him...4 years have past and I still think of him but I have found someone special out there who has helped me to forget him a little and also he understands that I still have feelings for my 1st love and never forget him and ohly wants me to be happy and the anotherthing now is that my ex just started talking to me a while ago and one I feel weird whenever I do and another at the time I've seen we aint meant to even thought I still think of him a lot he'll always be your first love but one day you'll find someone better...trust me I did^_^

I know how you feel. I have been going out with this guy for 2 years and we have know each other a lot longer than that. We where very close and also with each others families. I thought and still do that he is the one. I have been in other relationships but nothing like this. Our last year in high school he was deciding what he wanted to do, go to college or the marines. We graduated from school and I started my college and he decided to go to the marines but not until this year. The past 2 months before he left he was spending more time with the guys on my nights off lifting weights and such to get ready for the marines. He then told me that he loved me but he didn't think this would work out and he broke it off. We talked a few times since then but all I got from him was I still love you very much and care about you but I just can't do this anymore. The night before he left I went to say goodbye and he kissed me and told me that he still loved me. This guy has never lied to me ever and I really think he does love me. All our friends tell me something different. Some tell me that you doesn't want me to put my life on hold and not enjoy myself while he is gone that I need to move on and be happy. Others tell me that he just wants to be free to do what he wants and doesn't care. He has never told me that we will not get back together but some tell me that he told them that. I am confused and have been through the not eating and still it is hard. All I do is think about him and what we had together. It is not getting easier at all even with me going to college everyday and working 6 nights a week he is still on my mind. I just wish I know why and if there is a chance. I always trusted him and I still do with all my heart. One of his freinds told me what f he would meet someone else while on tour and what if there was someone else out there for him. All I replied to him was you can't live on what if's. It could also be me that could happen too and then you have a decision to make. I am very close to his family and having lunch with his mom and maybe she can sort some of this out for me. So good luck because it is very hard.

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Hey im in the almost the same situation as you and its really hard, like my girlfriend broke up with me like 4 monthes ago and I have no idai why. but all I ever think about is her and she just got back with her ex boyfriend wich kills me. I know how hard it is to see or hear that the person you love soo much loves someone else. I dont really have any advise but I thought it would help to hear that your not alone, cause it helped me out a little.. just try and stay friends with your ex and maybe oneday it will all work out. thats what im trying to do, just think to your self is your ex really worth the pain, cause if you take my advise and are friends with him its going to be hard to see your ex knowing there with someone else... well any way if you want to talk more just funmail me. I truly hope everything works out for you.

My ex and I were together for a rocky 3 months before he ended it to get back together with his ex. A year and a half later it still hurts, he was my friend, he was my first everything. My head tells me he's not worth it but my heart misses him. We're at a crossroads now where I feel like I need to choose whether or not he should stay in my life. Should we work on repairing our friendship? I feel like it's easier for me to just cut him out forever but the thought of that makes me so sad. Part of me wants him in my life b/c I can't let go but as well, I reason it out by thinking if we could somehow repair our friendship I wouldn't feel so much pain and abandonment from the ending of our relationship. I went through so much with him and I hate how looking back at it just makes me want to cry. I want to be able to treasure the time we spent together and laugh about it one day. But I know it's not healthy for me to keep clinging on, perhaps it'll be better to just bury it all. Any advice for this confused soul?

Well, honey, I think you should talk to him to get that closure you definitely need. Also, to really get over him, I think you should talk about WHY you broke up, and maybe get an idea of what you might have done wrong (so that you might not do it again) or what he did (so that you know what to look for in the others you date).

But if you really want to stop thinking about him, only think about the bad things that happened. For example, maybe he yelled at you a lot or insulted you or insulted your family. Maybe he cheated once and promised to never do it again, or maybe there was no chemisty. But if you think about all the GOOD things that happened, you might not be able to let go. If you think of all the BAD things that happened, it's easier to move on.

Unless you find out why you broke up you'll never get over him. But if you still love him you shouldn't lead this new guy on

If he came into your life after a rough period and the relationship was for 6 months then you guyz must have been pretty close. so you should at LEAST approach him one day and tell him how you feel. just get it out there whether you think he feels the same way or not. also, this other guy...u guys have also been going out for a pretty long time. you probably shouldnt tell him this if you havent already. if you get pretty involved with getting this guy back you should break up with him. not only will that make things less complicated but it will also show your ex that you really do miss him. I know what its like to have someone like that in your life. it totally changes everything in your life.

the best thing to do is keep yourself very busy, very very very busy that way you dont think of him anymore
dance and exercising usually help a lot. thats the best advice I can give
you have to let him o
I just went through the same thing

I've been there too sweety, and I got him back then I didn't want him anymore after he came back to me. I tossed him out like the garbage he was (is). He was bad for me then, when I was a teenager and probably still would be. In fact, I think he is in prison. I am now married to a wonderfl man that serves our great contry and we have two beautiful, bright, silly kids together that we love more than life itself. Sometimes it's hard to move on but you just gotta do it. I have never been happier in my life than I am now and always thought that I would never be happy again. I can't imagine my life without my husband, our kids, or cats and the life we made together,we just hit out 15 year anniversary! Move on and start living yor life...best of luck

I just brooke up with my boyfriend this afternoon.And I'm already feeling down.we were in a 6 years relationship that never grew.I really loved him and showed him in different ways.but our main problem was that he never knew how to treat me like a woman.He's a very nice person and always put me infront him.but I guess that's not what I wanted.he would pay all the bills but would never offer me a rose not even on valentines day so don't even ask on my birthday (nothing).He never want to take decision .I'm always the one too.I spoke to him several times ,that I need affection not only sex.but he believe that sex was love.he treats my daughter like she is he's .but I've been suffering for a while.so I finally cheated on him not for sex but some nice romantique occasion and affections.I really felt like a woman and not only a housewife or mom.but then I could not lie to him (I told him I cheated) and the strange thing is like he is willing to accept it.but I did ask for that seperation and now it hurts.I have feeling for him and I know he's hurting too .but I want to be on my own for sometimes.I know it is going to be hard.