Help me get over my ex!!

It#039;s been almost 3 years now and I can#039;t seem to get over my ex-boyfriend. It#039;s kind of silly when I think about it, because it was only a six-month relationship. He came into my life after a rough period, like he was an angel, he made...

me a much better person. I was the happiest I have ever been, still to this day. He truly was a great guy, the exact kind of guy that I will one day want to marry. We broke up, for a reason that is still unknown. But, I#039;m left here without closure. For a year and a half, I did nothing but dwell on him and what things would#039;ve been. Until, I decided to start dating again. I#039;ve been dating this one guy for a year and two months now, and I still can#039;t get my ex off of my mind. I don#039;t know what the problem is. It was only six months. Just recently, I heard that he is dating someone new now, and that she could be quot;the onequot; for him. I was crushed and devastated. But, I remembered that I have my own boyfriend. I don#039;t know what to do. Either I need to get over him,quickly, or I need to get him back..some way, some how. It is very important. I need to move on at some point, but I can#039;t without my own closure. What should I do? Please help.

I've noticed there's nothing on here regarding if the guy can't get over his ex girlfriend. Anyone have any advice? We broke up a couple years ago and I seem to compare everyone to her. She seemed perfect at the time and still really does. I still see and talk to her on occassion but she has been dating another guy that I know. I don't want to do anything to disturb their realationship, but I seem to always think about what would have been.

i have the same problem as you do. i dated this guy for only about 7 1/2 months. but every moment with him was perfect. he was the one for me i thought. i was completly fallen for him. and when it ended i didnt have closure. i didnt get a phone call from him one day, then it turned to a week, then months. i didnt know if he was dead or what. then i found out that he thought i would know it was over if he didnt call. pathetic, at least i think. but here i am almost 2 years later and he is still the first thing that pops into my head. ive had many boyfriends since then and i liked them all but in everyone of my relationships it feels like there is something missing. i dont think you ever get over the person that you care about that much. if you care that much about someone they are not going to go away easy. my advice to you would be if you are happy with who you are with now try everything to make it work. try everything to forget about this other guy. because if you just dwell on him then you can never know what else there is out there. im sure he is very special to you as was my ex, and they are very hard to forget, but sometimes all you can do is to try. if you left the guy that you are with now to try and get back together with this other guy how would that make him feel? does this other guy even want you back? sometimes you can only look at what you have. not what you had and what could of been but what you have and what you can make out of it.

Same boat, except the guy and I dated for three months. He was my first; older man. Broke up with me in an email. It's been three and a half years. And he's married now.

I can't get over him. He's sort of a public figure, so that makes it a bit harder. I was a kid, but I've grown in so many ways. Any attempts of trying to be friendly with him go avoided by him. I was in a transtional period of life, and he broke my heart to no end. I still feel it now, and I wonder if we'll ever be friends. He's one of those people where you'd be happy just having their company. Just knowing they exist simultaneously in the same time and space is enough. It feels good to say so. I miss him. I'm not sure if I'll ever get over him, but I'm trying. Going to school, working, dating, writing. A lot of these things I do for him, but I need to switch to doing it for me. . . anyway, by now you've gotten your things together, I hope. And if you haven't, it's okay... we're only human. What else can be done?

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Wow, and who to think others had the same issue..I suppose it truly is part of life- breaking up and getting over it. I find myself though questioning myself and my sanity at times. I met this person over four years ago, on-line. Yes, I am married and had not business chatting with people I don't know perhaps, but I never thought that I would like someone who was half my age and 9000 miles away, but it happened. After a couple of months of talking lterally at least 8 hours a day ever ysingle day, I finally agreed to vacation in Europe and meet. WOW, it was like ...I can't explain it. I was devastated that I had to come home and the other had to go back to Australia. A month later I was convinced to go and spend time there, and did for about 3 weeks, and we missed each other so much- returned a couple of months later and st ayed another month. I broke up during that time because of a few reasons: 1) age difference 2) this person met someone at work and all the conversation was around that person- it was sooo apparent that there was something there. 3) the most difficult for both of us, my first gay experience and what I felt my first love. It broke his heart and he cried, but he seemed to get over it quickly after a few months, but I never did. I think the one guy Nekta was correct, I have unfinished business- at least in my heart. He tried to hug me and say goodbye at the airport but i was such a butt, I wouldn't. As I walked away, I saw him crying a bit while he waved good by. I couldn't say good bye cause I knew it would probably be the last time I will ever see him. I love my wife but I am not in-love with her like I was with her. If only I could have waited and been patient with him about things, but his mum was right. I am mature and he is just beginning life, and will have many loves. Well, he found a guy about 30 and has been with him for about 3 years now, and I am still longing to be with him. I try to write him, he just replied, you are a self-centered asshole, and leave me alone. My heart wants to be with him, but I think what really is the issue, I want to say Sorry face-to-face, and give him that hug. He will not allow me. For me, I feel that I can't move on, or maybe it is just a lie for me. Believe or not, my wife still loves me enuf to go thru all this with me, and I wish that I could only be in-love with her, but my heart only thinks of him. I can't explain about my wife, I wish she would leave me. I am not an active gay man cause I only want to be with him, and my wife and I have not really been intimate for over eight years. I hate seeing her suffer with pain because she is inlove with a man who loves another man. I told myself the other day that it was time for me to let go, I truly believe that I need to burn everything (pics, letters, etc) from him and let it go forever, and either live a gay life or work it out with my wife- God knows she is an awesome loving woman! I truly mean that. Sometimes I think I don't want this marriage to succeed because we can't have children (and it's me, not her). Who knows, but yes, I think that I know what you mean about holding on to an ex.

if he's your first boyfriend
then you will never get over him
so don't even try second of all
you should be thinking about your boyfriend right now
instead of your ex you won't get over him no matter what
so just let him stay on your mind
atleast that's what I do I still think about my ex
but I lknow I always will cause he's the first one
and you always remember the first one

ok here is the scoop. number 1 the rule of thumb in a relationship is no answer is the answer number 2 tell yourself each day you have enough confidence in yourself to find someone esle nubmer 3 love is two way road not one, so genuine love means if it is a one way road you have to let go. number 4 accept this person and recognize the impact of their loss in your life ACCEPT IT. number 5 never ever talk about your ex just trust me and dont number 6 improve yourself.

this has been very enlightening! Hmmm...while considering revenge, I came upon this posted question ffrom 2004! Well, quick story...met on line, met at coffee shop, 1 and 1/2 months of wow, then out of the blue he broke it off over the phone...i have kids, took too much time away he said, we went too fast, he meant everything he said to me and still feels the same way about me he loves me it isn't me it's him!!!hahaha gotta love that one...anyway! blah, blah, blah...we rekindled w/ me saying i'd take what i could get...what a nit-wit, then, of course we had a wonderful weekend trip, he started crossing the line of our deal and i started believing we were heading to commitment talk time...he broke it off again! This isn't getting any shorter, anyway! We have been talking again he finally told me the truth about Things he should have told me from the beginning...debt, ex-wife issues and that he was moving back w/her for convenience, it gets better this was 2 1/2 weeks after he broke up w/me that he struck a bargain with her that if they lived together it meant w/all the perks...she has now recanted saying she isn't emotionally ready to have sex w/him, but he can sleep in the same bed and help her w/everything and basically be her beyotch boy, while she still sees and has sex w/her present (who she is breaking up w/...) boyfriend. Isn't life strange! So, ironically he has signed a 6 month lease and is living in the back yard in a trailer! He saw her ex boyfriend yesterday and felt like kicking his katuckus, i said it sounded as though he might be feeling a wee bit jealous, he said he wasn't...yeah, right. Anyway, I pointed out that I was his dirty little secret and he was doing the same thing to her so he really didn't have a leg to stand on...he says he is just angry at himself for letting himself be misled by her ... SO! enter ME! I love this man...not for what he can or can't give me monetarily, but because of who he was and wanted to be when we first met, he is funny, intelligent, writes beautifully, fun, adventurous... and although the mean side of me says....REVENGE! The other side of me says: Just be his friend and help him get what he thinks he wants..(which could actually be a form of revenge and help me to move the hell on!) So, I am going to propose he let it be known that he is still seeing me, have me come over (he needs to pick me up so she can't run my plates and find out where I live!...she's a cop)Anyway, have me over, go out to the trailer hang out and watch a movie or play scrabble or even actually have sex...fyi, best damn sex i have ever had, (we have an agreement...once he sleeps with her, i'm back to just really good friend...saves my heart a little (my idea)...So! Women are emotional creatures, we don't always say what we really want, jealousy is a powerful, humongous motivator...since he won't force the terms of the deal they made, this will give him a chance to passively get what he thinks he wants...and I get to be a beyotch...new role for me. I am the truly nice girl everyone wants as a sister...do anything for you type... ugh. Time to play someone else for a while. I'm not saying this doesn't hurt like hell, but I believe I am doing this for me...i have had so much tradedy in the past year and 1/2 ... widowed by suicide, daughter molested by former boyfriend, court, court, court, mortgage, property taxes, holding on to my house by a thread now and my sanity! fyi: therapy helps! I.e i need to move on and if I don't go through with this I'm afraid I'll end up in a very bad USED place emotionally! So....any help to anyone? Any suggestions? Please don't send me a web site for a How-To get back ex, dump ex, help ex get together w/ex or other websites w/a similar genre! Thanx...truly hope no one else finds themselves in so deep, but I AM a realist and know that if wishes and buts were candy and nuts...we would all have a very fine time! Good luck to all.

my names jessy and im thirteen me and my ex had been together for a year And he broke up with me because he didnt want to fall in love at such a young age but that doesnt help me I was seriously in love with him we broke up last week and hes all that I can think about my old friend sam asked him out and he said yes and I just found out and he said he was over me now and that I need to move on but he doesnt understand.
I LOVE HIM.I wish we were still together.itryed getting over him then I got on the bus and he sat there smiling.and I realized how much I loved him he asked me to marry him I know that were young but he even got me a ring and everything I would die for this boy and I called sams house and told her she better have a nice week cause monday I want to bring a gun to school and kill her seriously.but I cant.but I seriously would.IAM IN LOVE WITH HIM.
smeone help me..

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Your story is like a copy of mine. It took me five years to get over my first love, and we were together for only seven months. Before him, no guys had ever paid much attention to me, I was a bit overweight and had low self-esteem. He was the whole package, extremely handsome, charming, attractive, smart and funny. He came into my life totally unexpectedly. He was the first one that I kissed, the first one that I made love with, the first one that gave me so much joy, that first one that introduced me to things that I've never experienced before, the first one that I fell totally in love with. We had to end the relationship abruptly because circumstances was not allowed, it broke my heart, and I cried my eyes out when he left.
After him, I lost weight and learn to be confident because of all the positive comments he gave me. Guys started to be around me like buys around light. I had several boyfriends after him and inevitably compared them with him, but none of them could live up to his standard. I thought about him every single day in those five years. But I finally met a wonderful guy that make me forget about him. My new guy is everything he is, and even more. I love him dearly , he is the first person that makes me forget about my first love at all. I stopped thinking about my first love, he's out of my life now.
I found him from an online social networking website not long ago. I sent him my messages and he replied. I found out I can finally see him as an old friend, not an infatuation that never goes away.
I'd advise you to go out and find a new guy. You may not believe me that you can find a new love, but trust me, I'd been there longer than you are. It will pass, and time and a new relationship will heal everything.

Your's sounds like mine ...
find out the unkonow reson...
that way you cn put your mind at rest ...
but if that dont help then ...
Love is a load of W A and K
any way xxx

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can somebody help me get over my x-girlfriend?

it's really hard to move on seeing her everyday 'because we're officemates..and the worst part here, someone is courting my x in the office. I'm jealous and can't help it.. I still have feelings for her.

Please help!

Wow I had the same problem but they ended up breaking up and we got closer again so now we are back together so try to hang out with him more but dont make it obvious andmayb he will want to go bc out with u! Good luck

well, here's what I have to say. Go to other guys. Try them out. If they remind you of your ex then move on. If you really want your ex back then give him some signs. Hang around him more and talk to him more. If it goes on long enough, then maybe he'll want to date you again!

I know how all of you guys feel. I've been there. My ex boyfriend and I werent dating for a really long time, and I know this will probably sound stupid but we had something special. I knew I was in love with him and he was in love with me too. However, I made a mistake and it wasnt until then that I realized how much he meant to me. He moved on but I was just stuck. He was the first guy I ever really loved. Then as time went on we would talk sometimes and he told me he still had feelings for me and I told him how I felt about him. But he never wanted to act on his feelings. He was dating around and I was too but I was never really happy. Then he fell for this girl he dated for about 5 or 6 months. I still dont think hes over her and it makes me sad because Id never hurt him again and Id do anything for him. Im not happy being single but the only one I want to be with, it will probably never happen. I really dont know what to do its been about a year and a half and I should be over him but I just cant. I still love him. Any advice?

well, nice to know I'm not alone!

just the mere fact that I CAN'T get over him after so long (6 years) makes me feel even worse! like, 'why am I so dumb? he obviously wasn't the guy for me!' I can makes lists and lists of why I'm better off. but this has nothing to do with being rational.

I'm 32. had dated many men before him, been engaged to one. dated many wonderful guys since. me and this love-of-my-life were going to get married and then long distance...who knows? 6 years later, still hanging over my head and hurts like hell.

I think it only hurts so much bc you think 'if this was the ONLY time in my life I felt this way, what if it never happens again??' it's not him, it's the idea that he was IT. missed that boat and all that.

plus the ego-pain of failure. that sucks, too.

***which MEANS you ain't never going to get over it until it does happen again. fingers crossed.

good luck to me and to you all!

(and soduku is a cure-all bc you can't possibly think about an EX while you are consumed with numbers) words of wisdom to give your mind a break from obsessing.

He was right for you at that point in your life, but three years later would he really fit into your life now? You are a completely different person- and so is he.
When broke up with someone a while ago I was crushed, I m not even ashamed to say it, I fell in love and the break up was bad. Don't be frustrated by not being over him yet. You will be. (Distance makes the heart grow weaker ?)

yeah it seems like we all got the same problem I cant get ova my ex and everyone says he gay but I still love him hes like my 1st true love someone help me!!!