How do I know if my hymen is broken?

IM 14 AND OF COURSE BEIN A TEENAGER ITS a lot PERSSURE TO HAVE S*X..I've READ THAT IT HURTS ON your FIRST TYME AND IM SCARED..I HAVE ALSO HEARD THAT you CAN BE BORN WITH OUT A HYMEN IS IT TRUE? AND HOW DO you know?? I CAN DO A SPLIT AND I PLAY SPORTS BUT I DONT know IF MY HYMEN IS BROKEN?..IM STILL A VIRGIN AND IM going to BE TILL IM MARRIED..HELP ME ANSWER MY QUESTION..please

I know a good site that you should check out. http://www.coolnurse.com/hymen.htm this place will answer all of your questions and more.

Yes, some girls are born without a hymen. Hymens don't so anything anyway, so it does not matter. They usually break in childhood or around puberty from tampons, mast*rbation, and even running and jumping. So there is a good chance your hymen is already torn. There's usually little or no blood involved, so many girls don't know when it happened.

You should never have intercourse because people are pressuring you. That's an awful reason to have it. You need to know a lot about your body before you have it, and it sounds like you do not know enough yet.

S*x should never hurt. If it does, you're probably doing it wrong! Most of the girls who feel pain are the ones who rushed into s*x without learning about it first. The most common cause of pain and bleeding during intercourse is lack of lubrication. The second most common cause is being tense and nervous. So if everyone just learned about this stuff before rushing into it, there would be a lot less unnecessary pain.

So my advice would be to wait a bit longer. Do some research, learn some more things. Learn about reproductive anatomy and birth control. Before you have intercourse, you have to have at least one method of birth control, and you have to know how to use it. You also have to start going to the ob-gyn once you become sexually active. I also recommend www.coolnurse.com... to get you started learning about this stuff.

llewellyn, did you miss that she said she's waiting till marriage? She's not giving into pressure any time soon. And it's very normal for sex to hurt on the first time.