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My friend is dealing with dad's death by cutting and ditching class

Just me! Asked by elmo_ashley about 1 year ago, 12 answers.

My friend's dad just died from cancer. She's dealing with it in all the wrong ways. I just found out that she's cutting herself.
To make matters worse her other friends who are in all her classes have ditched her. They said that this has changed her...

and that she's only looking for attention from everyone.
I dont know what to tell her and I want her to be happy again.

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All eyes on u Answered by einstiens_chosen_few on May 31, 2008, 06:26PM
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I use to do that, ummm, I found out the hard way when one day I woke up on life support and a blood transfusion, Shes not crazy...shes just really hurt, more hurt than she has ever been, so she's trryin to understand the concept of life and its worth. Just keep an eye on her. the best thing you can do for her is let her know your there for her constantly. take her to see a doctor there may be some underlying problems that haven't be resolved with her dad, some regret,. GoodLuck eh, Shes lucky to have a friend l;ike you...be brave

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d;slfkadjs;fskfjd Answered by xxjulixx on May 31, 2008, 06:15PM
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This is your time to stick up. All of those other friends aren't true friends if they'd ditch her that easily. You need to go to her and tell her about how you miss her old self. And tell her that she's changed so much. Tell her that cutting herself will not make things better. And I'm betting she's the type of person that says: No one care, now leave me alone or something along those lines. Hug her and tell her that you care. And that if she needs a shoulder to cry on, that you'll be there during the good times and the bad. Then you have to leave her. You have to see if she can make this decision, if she can't then she's officially too beyond repair.

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vale Answered by vale on May 31, 2008, 06:18PM
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well tell her what her dad would have said to her like example: , never mind. probably reminding her of that would make her cry more. ask her about the happy moments she and her dad had together and the things that he said to her. tell her he had a happy life and he probably wants her to have a happy life 2. he'll be watching her from above. and hell always be there for her graduation, 1st baby and when she gets married. hope that helps

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haha Answered by teresa_is_cool on May 31, 2008, 06:26PM
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well you got to tell someone bout the cutting and theres nuttin you can do bout her dad she has to get over it her self and there no right or wrong way to do that also you cant tell her when to get over it

whats up people its me Answered by maximus07 on May 31, 2008, 06:42PM
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Well you got a situation on your hands... you have to be a true friend. This is a hard time for her and she is going to try to ease pain by releasing pain. This is how cutters are made. You need to help her take her mind off of things easing her mind is the key. Take her some where to where the both of you can chill. Go watch a movie go to the mall. Spend time with her shes going to need it for the things shes going thru ya know...

School photo 2007 Answered by oklahottie on May 31, 2008, 07:19PM
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hey just be there for her and she will probly turn around for you! just kind of tell her that you are there 4 her and if she dosent turn around soon ... well then she might need some real help , ...lex

me again Answered by younglovelatina13 on May 31, 2008, 07:29PM
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THIS IS THE TIME WHEN you SHOW HER WHO ARE THE REAL FRIENDS. BE THERE FOR HER TRY TO BE IN HER SHOES. IF you DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY, DONT SAY ANYTHING, ITS BETTER NOT SAYING ANYTHING THAN SAYING SOMETHING WRONG.

Answered by amblessed on May 31, 2008, 08:14PM
12243 answers

You're a good friend - help her - some info:

Cutting Hotline: 1-800-366-8288

Cutting - Ending self-injury:

http://www.selfinjury.com/

Cutting support group: 1-888-825-8249 or
1-800-DONT-CUT

,.o Answered by fyorella3 on May 31, 2008, 08:25PM
14 answers

she should go to therapy its really hard to deal with a death alone and going to therapy will help

blue hair. :P Answered by xxemoprincessxx on May 31, 2008, 08:55PM
75 answers

The best thing you can do is be her friend and be there for her..as for the cutting, you can't make her stop. She has to want to.

Moi. Answered by kimzeh on Jun 01, 2008, 03:07AM
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Try to talk to her about it and try to make her feel better about it and tell her you will always be there for her no matter what. This should make her feel more wanted, and even if she doesn't respond, you should just hang around her and make her feel wanted.

Shark Atack Answered by funadvice on Jun 01, 2008, 01:04PM
53985 answers

This sounds like that your friend is taking it hard.
Its normal to cut yourself and try to comitt suicide as it sounds like. I would suggest to her that she get counseling, or talk to someone that's close like her mom, or someone else. You could try to coax her into reading the bible if you two attend church.
And, as for her friends, they don't understand how she feels and, maybe they'll learn from her if someone in there family passes on. Forgive me lord I was being cruel but, its true. I'd probably do the same thing. So, have her seek counseling, or if you two attend church, talk to her Pastor and maybe her church would have a program for the youth.
Another thing that you could do to get her perky again, maybe she likes to watch TV or maybe she has a favorite hang out place where you and her could go for the day.
Hope this helps.

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