Help..

I'm an overweight 13 year old with no friends, depressed, a binge eater, and is terrible at school... What can I do??? I try as hard as I can but nothing works. I've tried dieting, but I keep binging afterward. I keep trying to work hard, but I just...

can't keep my attention on my school work. I don't even know why I don't have any friends...

Help???

first of all justaniceguy, how rude is it to read that she doesnt have any friends and is bad in school then come on here and say your have plenty of friends and pretty good at school. maybe you should take other peoples feelings into consideration befor you write back.

well anyway you are beautiful no matter what anyone sais! I too feel the same way you do. im a senior in high-school and have one friend there. I keep to myself all day. I try to make friends but it never has worked so I just gave up. every friday night I come home after work and cry myself to sleep because I know I am the only senior at home in bed at 8 o'clock. noone ever calls me or asks me to hang out with them. I have learned that those fake people at school miss out on one thing, enjoying life to the fullest. they like to go out and get drunk. I like to just look out my window on a rainy day and thank god for the beautiful rain, and bright shining sun afterwards. I've come to a coclusion that im different than everyone else: always have been and always will be. who cares if im not the stick thin popular girl in school? because you know even the most beautiful popular people have their low moments in life. noone is perfect, stop trying to be, I've learned the hard way to please myself and not everyone else. hope this makes you feel a little better

I'm overweight as well, but I have many friends and I'm pretty good in school. Try making study groups with other people who don't do well, that will help your school problem and you can make friends as well, also try joining clubs if the club interests you. Always be nice and don't worry, you'll make friends

being 13 is tough enough. don't sweat it so much. you have hormones going on. try to eat a good balanced diet to lose the extra weight. The balanced diet will help you concentrate on school work. take care of yourself first!. If you have a church, make friends there. school mates can be cruel to overweight people. Don't try so hard. relax. People will like you better if you don't get in their face so much. Relax. BE the duck. learn to laugh at yourself. sounds hard to do. but if you take things a little lighter you'll get along. You are still 13 and just learning how it works.

I was overweight at 13 as well, with no friends (except for Hot Pockets and TV)...geez, almost all of my teachers thought that I was a boy when I was in 7th grade...yeah, it sucked horribly, but that sort of isolation kind of led me to explore talents I never knew I had.

in my classes, instead of paying attention (my grades suck, what's the point? was my thought process at the time), I'd mindlessly doodle in my notebooks. I wasn't very good at first, but I kept it up until the doodles started turning into okay-looking cartoons...eventually, I started drawing cartoon characters from the TV shows I was obsessed with back then (Futurama, Space Ghost Coast to Coast/Cartoon Planet, old Hanna-Barbera stuff) and THOSE started looking good too.

long story short, I kept drawing, which led to dabbling in making comics, which I found made people interested in me, which led to a slow uprising in popularity in my school when I began Xeroxing my comics and distributing them around during lunch. this carried on into high school, and, if it wasn't for the crappy state of the American economy right now, I'd be in art school going after an animation degree but I'm a sophomore in a nursing program, but I'm still circulating my own comics today on my campus.

art turned my life totally around, socially, academically, and most of all psychologically.

oh, and making comics, collecting them and reading them curbed my eating down to a healthy level as well...kinda hard to wolf down junk food compulsively when there's a pencil drawing feverishly in one hand and a brand new Tank Girl collection inches away...

so yeah, to finish the rant/life story (lol), try to find your talents with your spare time and hopefully they'll keep your mind and hands busy enough to avoid over-eating.

the whole people liking you thing, don't worry about it. when you don't stress about people liking you, they tend to flock to you. its weird, but I swear people love those who don't really give two craps about a lot of things and outwardly voices it with a dry sense of humor...being cynical is a great way to feign humor, and for some reason people just eat that up. I don't know why, but they do.

best of luck...just remember that most people who dislike you will end up being complete and utter failures later in life and that if you keep pushing through you'll be able to point and them and laugh one of these days.