Was losing my virginity a waste since he's leaving?

im sixteen and I've newly lost it to my 18 year old boyfriend. I wanted to wait till I was 18 , but I didnt make it there is no doubt in my mind that I dont love him , but he's going to the military soon . what will happen then? was it all a waist? should I tell my parents even though they'll kill me!?

For one - don't tell your parents unless you are really close with them, if you feel the need to tell someone close, tell a friend or family member that you know will help you and not judge you about it.

If you wanted to wait then you should have, I hope he didn't force you because if he did then that is a completely different problem. Just because he is going to the military doesn't say if it was a waste or not, depends what does on really. If you two stay together and still communicate sometimes while hes in the military, then it wasn't a waste. But if he just goes off and never talks to you again, I'd hate to say but it was a waste.

I really feel for you hun and I wish I was there to give you a big hug.
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no he didnt force me. oh god no.

Well then I guess only time will tell what happens. I hope the absolute best for both of you.

thank you!

well don't tell your parents is my advice; they dont understand.
no it's not all to waste; love waits so if you love him pray hard and wait for him.
dont give up on hope :]

there's no reason to tell your parents.
if you love each other then try and make the relationship work no matter where he lives/works.
it may be tough sometimes, but you can do it.
good luck.

oh ok, ok, FIRST OFF: calm down! woah, woah, woah, unless your preggy den all the worrying shuld arise, but unless that is the case, then what I shuld suggest is if that you guys are still going to be together after he is leaving, I would suggest making it so that you guys have a stronger relationship. so that by the time he gets back, there are no regrets. :]