Hello

Hi im natalie and I just wanted to ask you from a boys opinion how do you know if your boyfriend is cheating . because sometimes im talking to him on the phone and he says oh,wait babe im texting Jesus ( his sisters boyfriend) but jesus is just in the...

other room . and also not so long ago he had this friend called jessica and just to let you know me and him have been dating since the 29 of august of 08 but yea he had a friend called jessica and it seemed that they had a little thing going on and then I checked his myspace and I saw that he sent his friend to tell me that he was cheating on me so I can break up with him because he didnt like me and he fell in love with this other girl . so his friend didnt do that , and he comes that same day his friend was suppose to tell me that and said that people said I was kissing other guys and he broke up with me .(but that was an excuse to break up with me because his friend didnt do what he was asked to do ) so I kept reading his myspace and I see that when I was going out with him he told this girl that he loves her . but I never told him I read those messages but then I guess things didnt work out and he tells me that the people who told him I was kissing other guys just told him that they were playing around which I dont believe anyone really told him anything but I just keep all these feelings to myself and I needed someone to tell me what I should do because I cant dissattach from him and I dont know what to do . and even though I have all these emotions inside im still dating him like I have nothing inside . and hes really a great guy but hes a player .
please respond im in need of your respond
thank you

well here is the problem that has been plagueing young people since the dawn of time- to trust a 'young' relationship or not.

maturity and responsibility are a major issue here (with him- not you), it sounds like you distrust this guy- possibly for good reasons, and being that you are already in that frame of mind highlights the facts- you can't have a healthy relationship where mistrust is involved- it just doesn't work.
it sounds to me like you should just pass him by, it may work out in the future- who really knows- but for now I would guard your own interests and feelings and move along, it may be hard to do, but I don't see you having a relationship with this guy that will be beneficial to you and allow you to grow.
all players are simply insecure and immature, and they feel the need to 'spread it around'.
move past this guy and carry on with your life- I guarantee there is another guy just waiting to get with you, he may not be as 'glamorous' as your current guy- but he will be much more healthy for you in the long run. FIND THIS OTHER GUY.