He thinks i am too good for him

My husband and I have only been married for eight months. We have been together for three years. We own a beautiful home and two great labs that we love so much. Recently we have been arguing a lot. Over anything that comes up. We are both in school...

full time and working full time. I have to do my student teaching soon and have put a lot of pressure on him to be able to compensate for my not being able to work during that time. He took a job that will make him a lot more money but has told me that he did it only for me. He came from a family where no one has gone to college and all of his cousins who are in our age range are either pregnant and not married or already have children from different partners. He is hispanic and I am caucasion. We are both 26 years old. He is so wonderful to me, very affectionate and loving. My family adores him to no end. But his family loved me in the beginning and now treats me not so great. We don#039;t argue about that though at all. We just accept it. I come from a family of people who are extremely loving and VERY close. He loves my family, our family. I am working on my Masters and he is working on his bachelors, he just started attending college. He tells me over and over again that I am too good for him and I would be better off without him whenever we argue. He says he needs space and I can#039;t deal with that being a woman I need to talk and resolve things asap. I am miserable. I don#039;t want him to feel that I am too good for him. I love this man so much I don#039;t even know how to express it in words and I there is no doubt in my mind that he loves me just the same. I feel that he feels I pressure him too much to change who he is and how he was raised. What do I do?

you have been married for 8 months, congradulations on that. Now the real relationship begins, you get past the lovey-dovey stuff and down to the point: can you work out your differences. If you need to talk about things, fine. But respect his space to a certain degree. I wouldn#039;t bring up a topic more then twice a day, otherwise he#039;ll feel pestered, and I don#039;t think he#039;d like that (I don#039;t).

He sounds like he has self-esteem issues, ask him if he#039;s like to join you doing something new out of the routine every once in a while.

As for the job thing, well he#039;s got to learn that he is not the only one that sacrificies. If he has to work at the same time as school and you do not, maybe you can remind him of the other stuff you do that he does not, such as extra cooking, extra cleaning. If you#039;re not doing something extra (or If you#039;re doing it and he#039;s not noticing it), he#039;s gonna feel cheated.

if you and your husband are having problems now, then go to a marriage counselor. or maybe the only real counseling you both need is a beautiful night together, and im not talking about just sex. i mean like a candle light dinner, gifts, and a chance for you both to sit together and talk, and whereever it goes from there is not my buisness.