He thinks i am mean around his friends

My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately about his friends and my behavior towards them and him. He claims that I do not want him to have a good time with his friends and makes it a point to tell me that I also make him feel bad for hanging...

out with his friends. My boyfriend never goes out anywhere and hates when I do. But yet he can have friends over and gets upset when I do not hang out. None of his friends are in relationships and are frankly immature. WHen his friends are around, he acts like a do not exist and disregards the fact that he has a girlfriend and a daughter. I am confused at this point because now he wants one of his friends to move down to where we live. The only reason that this friend would move down is because my boyfriend lives here. That bothers me a lot since my boyfriend turns into an asshole when his friends are around.

Everything in moderation. He needs to spend time with his friends, just not all the time. You also, should spend some time with your girlfriends--just not the majority of time. IF the amount of time the friends come over isn#039;t the issue--then it is probably that you want your boyfriend to pay more attention to you when he is with you. He won#039;t know this unless you tell him. And you need to tell him outside of an argument.

You said you two are fighting #039;about his friends and my behavior towards them and him.#039; What is your behavior toward them? Are you showing resentment? Or being rude? Neither is going to get you what you want--which is more time with your boyfriend.

Strike a compromise. So many friend nights, balancing you seeing your friends also and finding your own interests outside of him. And family nights with just the 3 of you. Have more family nights than friend nights. But on friend nights, let him be with his buds. Dissing his friends is not going to create warm and fuzzy feelings in your boyfriend. He may become an #039;asshole#039;[your word] because he feels he must defend them. And it is something you should talk about when not arguing. But again, I think if he has his space sometimes, he#039;ll be okay.

As for the guy who may move down there and live with you a while. Sit down with boyfriend and talk over the boundaries of the added person. He can stay 6 weeks, during which he finds a job and moves in his own place. Don#039;t make it #039;until he gets a job,#039; the time period needs to be fixed. He will pay so much toward extra a/c or heat bill. He#039;ll sleep where? He#039;ll help out with some household things, etc. Make it firm and both of you agree and then stick with it.

Hope that helps. Blessings and good luck