How to get freedom from my boyfriend?

recently I've been going out with this boy, and I havent known him that long. he keeps ringing me at like midnight saying do you want to chat on msn. he wont stop texting me and he always wants to meet up. im not spending as much time with my friends as I used to because im always with my boyfriend. I like his company but he is becoming to obsessive. I need some freedom!

write back! gemma x

It sounds like you have a little boy problem you should talk to him and ask him for a schedule like every other day you and him could hang out. the other days you can hang out with your friends. And tell him that maybe you don't want to talk on MSN at 12:00 am. Or if you don't want to tell him that make up excuses of why you can't talk on msn, and that you can't hand out or something or just see if you can maybe just hang out for a sertan period of time after school, then after that you can hang out with your friends, after that like homework or what ever you want to do after you friends. Slowly push him away just not enough to make you guys breakup just stop talking to him on msn at 12:00 or just talk to him for like half-an-hour. Take a little while to type back. Maybe use just some of this info or use all of it or none of it.

thanks this really helps

gemma x

Gemma,

I've had friends who have been in your kind of situation - He was obsessed with being around her,talking to her,etc.Considering that you just started going steady with his guy,he may just be very excited to be around you,and there's nothing wrong with that.It's a new relationship,and sometimes,the guy,or even the girl gets so excited,they can't control themselves,and yes,it becomes a bit obsessive.

If I were you,I would sit him down and say -

'You know I love you,but I love my friends also.They need me also.If I could,I would spend all the time in the world with you,but I have other important people in my life too.'

Try that,and see how it turns out.Give it time,and roll with it.Things will most likely get better!Hope I helped!

LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING HONEY IF HE IS JELOUIS NOW WHAT DO YOU THINK HE IS GOING TO BE LIKE IF YOU MARRY HIM ONE DAY GET OUT OF IT NOW IF HE DOESNT TRUST YOU TO HAND OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS YOU DONT NEED HIM ANYWAY.

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Tell him that you need some freedom, and you give him also some freedom. Even you may agree what % of the time will you spend together.

FREEDOM??? FREEDOM!!??!?!?!?!

F#&K THAT. JUST DUMP HIM. THIS IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP, THIS GUY IS TRYING TO ENSLVAE YOU AND MAKE YOU HIS LITTLE DOLL. THIS SITUATION IS PERPERTUATING THE CYCLE OF CO-DEPENDENT WOMEN. EITHER YOU TELL HIM TO STOP OR DUMP HIM. ITS THAT SIMPLE.

sorry...it just really bothers me how you dont feel free...thats really sad/dangerous.