He felt so strong and safe to be with, i want him back

hi
I need some help. my boyfriend has just broken up with me, we have been going on and off for over two years now and now it seems theres just this empty space, I feel really bad. I carnt stop thinking about him, no matter what I do. we've broke up...

once before, because I wouldnt have sex with him without him using protection, but he gave in and ended up going back out again, now hes just told me, after months of telling me that he really wants me, that he doesnt want to date anymore. I really miss him, I really want him back, and dont know how to. he still wants to talk to me and acts like were friends, like nothing has happened, hes messed me around so much, and I know I've let him. but I still want him, I dont care what he does, I just want to be with him. I've had problems as a teenager with certain male family members liking me more than just family, I managed to fight them of, but now I feel so alone. even though he didnt know about what happened in my teenage years I felt to safe with him, it was as if his strengh helped me gain confidence again, and now I feel so low. I carnt cope talking to him as just friends, I just want to feel safe with him again, please help because im completly lost.

right now forget your past (concentrate on the now) ive just lost my fiance after 2 very wonderful years and she is acting like we r friends and despratly want her back now the only thing you can do at the moment is to stay friends i know its gonna b hard you never know you could go out somewhere together and that spark of romance could be relit in a firey night of passion never give up hope i know im not i cannot afford to do it not ever nither should you love burnsey xx :-D

I know it's tough and hurts never ending, you have a gaping hole in your chest and it doesn't want to go away....in the morning when you wake up until the evening you go to bed all you think about is your loved one and how you miss them.

You need to give your self time to mourn and cry everything out as this is part of the healing process. You need to think to yourself why did you break up, would you want to continue your relationship from where it took off or would you want to have a clean slate and a fresh start.

After your mourning process (no more than 2 weeks) you need to make yourself feel good about yourself. Very important is to feel good without your partner and to show him just how well you're doing without him. (this will make him want you) and as burnsey is doing right now, make friends with him first this could take up to 2-3 months.

But it is very crucial to you to make Friends, and don't mention the relationship just try and have a normal conversation with the person.
Make small chit chat. After you feel that you can talk to the person without shaking like crazy *being nervious* you can then try and meet up for lunch or just 10 minutes of there time.

It's a long process and don't just sit on your ass waiting for time to pass, get out there and get working on yourself go to gym or start jogging, buy yourself new clothes make yourself feel like bomb, so that when he sees you again he can see just how good your looking.

Im talking from experience as I broke up with my love of my life 2 and a half months ago and have only started this week talking to her again.

It hurts I know, she's with someone else so I know how you feel.

Be strong Girl and show him just how Fab you can be without him...

Remember people are drawn to people who are happy, not sad

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