He dumped me...

The guy I loved the most, and he made it my shortest relationship. He didn't feel like he was being fair to me... I thought he was. He said he didn't have time for me... I've spent more time with him in the past two weeks than I did with my last boyfriend within five months. He claimed he didn't feel the same way about me... one day he said he loved me and the next he barely would talk to me. He said it's not me; that I'm amazing. He just makes no sense. Anything I do, I think of him. It's even hard to do something I love so much, like singing. I was so depressed today I didn't look at him, talk to him, smile, barely laughed, didn't eat as much as I normally do, and felt sick. I couldn't sleep last night. I really don't want to feel like this forever. My friends don't help that much. I know this sounds kinda stupid and maybe even desperate, but does anybody have any words of wisdom to help me get over this?? Thank you so much!!

I understand you completly hun, going thru the same thing rite now to. In my case this is the second and last time im going to get over him. We were apart for 8 months when he came back claiming he changed and to give him another chance, stupid me did, 6 months later he leaves me again and I didnt even do anything wrong. What you need to do now is take some time, I no its hard but hey, if I can do it once I can do it again and so can you. Not eating rite, not sleeping, feeling depressed is ALL NORMAL. Its ok to be sad, if you need to cry, cry, if you need to punch the wall do it. You need to go thru the process of letting go, it takes time thats all, time heals everything. take some time out for yourself to get yourself back on track. go out with friends (and I no they dont help, all they say is "its going to be alright and blah blah" not what we want to hear rite now!) go out, have some fun, get your nails done, hair done, whateva makes you feel better and in time these feelings will go away, trust me. but if you ever need to talk since we are going thru this together, just email me ok take care

I went through an absolutely awful breakup, and while the guy wasn't quite so confusing he did kind of do some similar things. I just couldn't get a straight answer from him, and he'd say he didn't care for me anymore in that way but 2 days previous to dumping me he said he loved me as usual! What I learned from it is that he wasn't mature enough to have a relationship- he couldn't fess up that he didn't feel like it was working and so he'd make excuses for his choice. I know it sucks and it hurts, but stop trying to figure him out- it's not worth it. You need to give yourself some time to heal and just feel hurt for a little bit. Don't worry about why he's being so immature or confusing, it doesn't matter anymore! I honestly didn't think someone better would ever come along, and only a few months later I found someone I'm completely in love with now. Trust that things will turn up, and it's okay to feel hurt about this for a little bit. Good luck to you!
P.S. The best treatment EVER for a break-up is a girl's night. Either with your mom or friends, rent a chick flick and eat junk food and cry as much as you want. I swear it works wonders.

Hey,
well since everyone is talking about their break up here are mine.
When I was 20 my boyfriend broke up with me for a 14 years old girl!!!! And now I was dumped by a guy who also for the last second was too good to be true. Through his cousin I found out the reason she dumped me on the phone because I don't get my hairdone at a hair dresser and because I don't driv my car.
What do you think of such jerks?
Well my friends took care of me, we go out a lot and I have a guy friend who knows the whole thing and is helping me get through this. And today after 13 days from this breakup I definitly feel better. You may say well you had you friends around you. Yeah true. But my mum made me feel terrible about it so don't worry, if he were mean to you, if you're friends aren't good listeners, if noone can understand and knowing that you're not the only one feeling that doesn't help then do what I did and as suggested earlier I am taking good care of myself and looks, I'm taking language courses to meet new people and am writing in a paper what I expect of the future relationship and what may have caused this one not to work out even if I did nothing at least I have to learn from any tiny sympton that only an experienced like myself must know And believe I no longer am waiting for him to call not even apologize.