He can't/won't keep up!

I have been married for 15 years. I'm looking for more in my relationship. I took the long way around in telling my husband and I got no where. Yesterday I told my husband that if he doesn't want this to go outside of the marriage that we needed to do other things. He agreed, because I reminded him what I said when we met. I need what I need when I ask, I don't like to wait! And the but, he came home and did every thing else but what was needed.

What the flip? I'm not ugly, I've lost 35lbs and I'm still working on that. If you can't tell your partner what your needs are and see changes, then I wasted a lot of money getting the wrong answers.

MRSZ

I dont think he got the message. just tell him straight up

Let me say I told him just what I needed. I was trying to make it less like porn. But I know what I need and I will get it. Looking for a time line on waiting? Before?

I understand you have needs, we all do. is he not sexual or what? how old are you, just wondering?

(38) yes I know!

hmmm. so he doesnt want to have sex at all? you have a pic I can see for myself? also what did you mean by looking for a time line on waiting? I mean, I think 30 days is fair. but usually this goes the opposite where the man is chasing his wife.

also, what did he do that was 'everything' but what was needed. be specific, he isnt reading this.

1. Yes, he counts the times a week hoping to make me feel better.
2. No!
3. Yes! 30 days maybe?
4. It was never that way.

so are you having sex or not, im so confused.. your answer in #1 says he counts the times a week, im assuming times of sex sessions.

Yes we are! And it's good, but it's not enough. When I was a little girl (to a fault) I liked to play with the neighborhood kids. My dad would whip my ass if I ever put make-up on or wore any thing that showed I was a girl. His fear - my needs! From the start, no sex is death! My new fear mid-life with condoms.

so he wears condoms? how is that your new fear? are you implying you want to sleep with other men? you can send me a private message if you dont want to openly discuss this.