He can't/won't keep up!

I have been married for 15 years. I'm looking for more in my relationship. I took the long way around in telling my husband and I got no where. Yesterday I told my husband that if he doesn't want this to go outside of the marriage that we needed to do...

other things. He agreed, because I reminded him what I said when we met. I need what I need when I ask, I don't like to wait! And the but, he came home and did every thing else but what was needed.

What the flip? I'm not ugly, I've lost 35lbs and I'm still working on that. If you can't tell your partner what your needs are and see changes, then I wasted a lot of money getting the wrong answers.

MRSZ

Let me say I told him just what I needed. I was trying to make it less like porn. But I know what I need and I will get it. Looking for a time line on waiting? Before?

(38) yes I know!

1. Yes, he counts the times a week hoping to make me feel better.
2. No!
3. Yes! 30 days maybe?
4. It was never that way.

Yes we are! And it's good, but it's not enough. When I was a little girl (to a fault) I liked to play with the neighborhood kids. My dad would whip my ass if I ever put make-up on or wore any thing that showed I was a girl. His fear - my needs! From the start, no sex is death! My new fear mid-life with condoms.