How to get my husband to be interested in sex again?

I have been with my husband for over a year now. We have 3 kids, a girl who is soon to be 4 a son who is soon to be 2 and a 3 month old baby boy, the older 2 were mine when we met. When we first met the sex was great but after about 3 months it seems that things changed and he started to prefer the excitement of the Internet to intimacy with me and he admitted that when I had him take a quizz "are you addicted to the internet" go figure he scored 10 points over the high score!!! it seems I find him wanting me to fall asleep so he can watch a P O are N* and do his thing rather than be with me.. when I've been gone for and hour to a few hours I come home to find that all he did while I was gone is jack off to the P O are N* on the computer and when I try to have sex with him its like he either dosent want it or he just wants to get it done and over with so I will fall asleep for him to do his thing. I have tried buying hand cuffs and a whip...something he has always wanted but it hasnt helped at all he dosent even use them. I've tried telling him that I dont feel anything anymore and it hasnt helped either ... dose anyone have any ideas on what I could try ???

well mommy of 3..and you kids are beautiful by the way..I suggest and I dunno if this will make things bad, throwing all of the po are and away, maybe cutting the internet off in your house for a little while, have your mom or someone watch the kids and go at it. Put on something extra sexy, maybe yall can video tape yall having sex or something...Like with men they always like excitement and new things, try some extra freaky stuff..LIKE REALLY FREAKY STUFF if you can catch my drift..LOL, yall are married and obviously love eachother, do everything to make it work!!!

Well since you do have small children you could put in an internet safe security thing.

Then try being dominant in your sexual encounters with him. The video taping idea is actually a good one. You'll be amazed at how hot it is to see yourselves.

Try a "fantasy box". Have him write down his sexual fantasies on little pieces of paper(you do the same) and put them in a box or hat or whatever. Then choose a night every week or month that is fantasy night where you draw a piece of paper and do whatever it is on there. (don't forget a safeword! )

If it's still not working then maybe try and find a sex therapist.
but HE has to be willing to fix things too. It's a 2 way street.

Dear themommyof3,
Many people don't realize that this is an addiction...so you must treat it as such. If he was addicted to a drug you would get him into rehab. You would follow the program by getting rid of the drugs, people and things associated with the drugs. You must apply the same sense here. He needs to go to an addictions counsellor...he can't do this alone. He needs to get rid of the computer and he needs to stay away from friends or places with computers. This is an addiction and unless you treated as such you will not succeed.
Sue...good luck

Dear,

Don't try to be strict with him about the internet, don't show him that you are trying to controll him, because you can't keep your eyes on him always. So just relax and take things slowly. Let him fix himself and don't try to fix him, because we can't compare internet and mas*urbat*on to DRUGS. Masturabtion it's in our bodies since we were young.

-show him that you still in love with him and you need him.
-before having the intercourse with him, try to discuss how the sex is going between you guys.
-try to let him tell you what he really wants and the best way to let him do that, is in the bed before making love.
-try to have sex with him in different places, don't always do it in the bed, like shower or on the floor, chair, hotel, etc.
-try to tease him with the things that he likes on the woman, like sexy lingeries, maybe heels, some sexy dancing.
-don't let him have sex with you fast, keep teasing him and be the one who decide in the bed, make him horny and crazy.
-watch yourself, you got fat? are you dressing sexy for him? do you smell nice or you smell like kitchen?
-If you have time and money, go to the gym, men like to have their wives exercising and in good shape, it's part of the excitment.

most of the time when a man stop having sex with his wife it's because physical things and not love. 90% of the time Love will always be there.

PS: I don't recommend to film your sex guys, because it's danger on you both. most of the people who did that, you can catch their movies now on the internet. It's very easy to steal a movie and post it online. Even if you capture it on your PC it's very easy to hack on you and steal your movies. You want to be careful and watch your movie just on TV from the Cam?, well what about if your appartment get stolen one day? you like to show your intercourse for millions of people? so be mature and careful about that, because it happened with my friend and people that I know.

In general men like to have sex with different women, it's in their structure bodies, but not all of them like to do it, some guys know how to control themselves, some not.