Have I just made a huge mistake??

ok my boyfriend and I have been going out for 16 months and recently his family moved to florida. he didnt want to go and I didnt want him to go soooo he moved in with me. he shares a room with my brother and so far lifes good. but our relationship before he moved in wasnt and it hasnt gotten better. he makes rules up for me like I have a dress code, cant talk to guys, have to let him know where im going all day, and I am about to get my first car and I want to be independant but he said he has to go everywhere with me or my siblings do one. he doesnt trust me I have never cheated on him and never will!!! but the thing is HE has cheated on me!! I want to go out with him...for the summer at least but I will feel bad if school starts back and I dump him because he has moved away frrom his family to be with me. but there is this guy which I really like, and of course I wasnt supposed to be talking to him. ( but obvously did) and like I want to go out with him. should I? but if I do what if it doesnt last? then I would have thrown a 16 month relationship out the window. but like I was sayin about my boyfriend he has a job that makes him travel everywhere he'll be going to maryland soon ,and I want to go on a trip with my grandmother and he gets all mad!!!! I dont understand she wont be with me forever and its just a trip like he goes on with his jobs. what it comes down to is he doesnt trust me. should I keep going out with a guys who doesnt trust me? please help!!

I dont think it was a good choice to have your boyfriend live with you. he seems way too controlling of you and you need to work something out with him, allowing you to do things that are fun by yourself, or with a friend, even if it is a guy...if you have a guy friend that has been your best friend forever, you wouldnt be obligated to give up that friendship because you are not trusted by your boyfriend. You trust him, by letting him go off to work where he very well could be cheating on you, trusting that he wont. You need to tell him how you feel, and if nothing works then you can always go for that other guy :-)!!

I think that you need to have a talk with him and tell him how you feel! its very unfair the way he's treating you, and if he isn't willing to stop then you need to end things. yes, he gave up being with his family to be with you, but you still need you're life! you gave up just as much LETTing him stay with you! do urself a favor and set him straight because the longer you wait, the harder it will get! good luck!

I really think that the only solution to your problem is talking to your partner. What I mean is that you need to tell him how you are feeling and why you are feeling this way. Maybe he would understand, and if you really think that going with your grandma to that trip is extrmely important you should go no matter what or who tells you not to. I know he has left his family for you but he needs to understand the fact that you are not feeling very well being with him because he doesn't understand your point of view. No man sgould tell you how to dress, if he really loves you he should like you the way you are, he can't try to change. Because that only affects your relationship.
PLEASE talk to him to see where it leads!!

oh my gosh honey!!! first of all you are obviously pretty young, which is terrific because you can learn these lessons early like I did. I'm only 21 but with the crap that has been pulled on me, I feel ancient. first of all-no one controls you but you. any girl who gives up her life and her friends because a guy told her to is destined to be miserable. my two best friends are my support, my stability in life, and when I date a man he knows that he will always come after them. they are the ones that save my ass from going down a hole when a boy is done with me. never lose the ties that you have to people that really care about you. and having fun by yourself does not make you a bad girlfriend, it makes you a better person and even more lovable. second-he will NEVER

. . .sorry it cut off. anyway, he will NEVER trust you and give you freedom if he is a cheater himself. more than likely he will accuse you constantly and repeatedly cheat himself.
lastly, just know that you have a whole life in front of you. chances are you will look back on this in a few years and wonder why you even thought twice about the situation. just worry about loving yourself and having fun. everything will fit into place and the person that actually deserves you will appear out of nowhere. . .

thanks for your advice...turns out you were right and he did cheat on me again. he is currently in maryland at the time but when he returns I am going to break the news to him. it is going to be hard but he has brought this on himself and deserves it. thanks again for all your help.

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hey sassy!! this is your cousin speaking. listen. yur making the wisest choice by breaking up with him. he doesn't respect you and doesn't love you. I've seen it for a while now, and your making the wisest choice by leaving him. don't forget that I'll always be here to talk and I love you like a sister (we pretty much are). if a guy thinks that they need to change the way you are just to satisfy their own selfish desires and needs, then he is not worth it. plus, if he is this pushy about the way you dress and stuff, what about if he wants you to do something even worse, like something that you know is wrong. Be yourself and some one else will come along. don't forget. I back you one hundred percent and will support you through thick and thin. luv ya(u know what I mean! lol!)

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Sassafras.......Get rid of this guy. He is bad, bad, bad. A guy who tries to control you now will only get worse in the future. That is only the first step. Next he will be beating you up when he imagines you are breaking his rules. I know all about it, I had a neighbour like that and I had to rescue his wife several times. You are very lucky you are still able to get away. If you don't mind, would you let us know how it turns out. I hope he doesn't get violent when you break up. I suggest you have someone else with you at that time. Colt