Has he changed?

I'm seventeen years old. Over two years ago in March of 2007 I met this guy. We really hit it off but the problem was he had just moved out of town and was visiting back here once we met. Anyway, we talked over the course of a few months with his visits...

coming in August and October. We were practically treating each other like we were a couple even though he was away the majority of the time. In October of 2007 we both realized we had fallen in love and agreed we'd wait for each other since we would be moving back soon. From the beginning we argued about his drinking and smoking, I couldn't stand it. He said he'd quit smoking and doing drugs and I believed him. Regardless, we agreed to start dating January of 2008 and he soon moved home the next month. April of 2008 came and my best friend informed me that he had been drunk and cheated on me with his best friends sister. When I asked him about it, he showed up on my doorstep saying sorry as he cried. I slammed the door as my heart shattered into a million pieces. He said it was just a kiss but I dont know for sure... After a week of begging I decided to take him back with some conditions, quit the smoking and the drinking or I was done. He suddenly quit smoking his cigarretts and said he quit the drinking but I soon found out he hadnt. He kept saying I was taking his fun away but I tried explaining that it was just because I didnt trust him. I knew that he wouldnt quit unless he truely wanted to, but for some reason I thought I could change that... Everything seemed like it was going great later on. We first made love in June 2008 and the next month he wrecked his car and had no way to get to work which meant no way to pay for rent. His mom came back up and brought him back home to live with her. After he left, I found out I was pregnant. He was there for me the whole time trying to keep me calm, telling me he will be back soon, that I wont have to do this alone, he'll be holding my hand the day I give birth, but not two months in I lost the baby due to stress and I've always felt like he blamed me. I went to go visit him in central FL in August 2008 while he was gone and he soon came back in September 2008 for our birthdays. Everything once again seemed great until one day he showed up at my house high and I found out about all his partying and I just didnt know what to do. He said he wouldnt quit and all I did was cry until he finally once again said that he would stop. Our one year came in January 2009 and we spent the whole day together. He took me out and did all these sweet things for me, got me these beautiful gifts. But two weeks later my sister came out and said that he tried getting her to give him head back when we went to go visit him that previous August in 2008. I asked him and of course he lied, but I knew it was over. For some reason I blamed my sister, I guess because she kept it from me all that time and because apparently they were talking as friends behind my back and she was telling him things like I thought some other guy was cute, etc. Well we didnt talk for awhile but then he kept trying to get me back but I wouldnt take him. February 2009 came and he called me from jail because he got a DUI and then May 2009 came and he moved back to central FL once again. I know I'm making him sound like a horrible person but he's been there for me so much over the past two years and he's done some of the greatest things for me. Every day he'd drive across town to see me and besides his problems, he was such a sweet person. Its like someone who you know has the potention of being the perfect person except they just have a problem they wont change. Anyway, over the past few months of talking as friends, he has seemed to be a completely different person. He's so willing to everything and he tells me that he hopes to one day find someone like me and he can learn this as a lesson and treat them so well. He has stopped his drugs and stopped his drinking since he has to serve his probation. He's suddenly getting involved with church and does a lot with his family. He calls me every night until before, he texts me constantly throughout every day, hes always apologizing for what he's done, and hes actually being sweet all the time. I agreed to give him another chance only if he can prove himself. I told him I was faithful for a year and 18 days that if he wanted this chance to really change, then prove it by switching roles. I can do whatever I want, with whoever I want, whil he is faithful to me for a year and 18 days. At the end of it, if I can trust him again and we can work it out, with no lies, no trouble with the law, no smoking, no drinking, no drugs, no partying, no cheating, no nothing, then we will give it a try. With that he confessed that he had cheated on me a total of four times while we were together and although I was trying not to get attached, I cried my eyes out once again. He said he's so sorry but wanted to change but he couldnt if he kept it from me. Now he says hes ready, he was scared before, but hes ready and he really tries with me now. He says he wants me to be happy even if its not with him but he cant let me go until he's given it all hes got. I can see a genuine change in him for the first time and I actually feel at peace with it when I pray. But when I try, Im afraid to trust him with my heart. I told him a year and 18 days so I get get over it, put it behind us, and not let our past get in the way, but sometimes I feel so stuck like im all I have left in this world. he says he's here for me all I need but he'll give me all the space I want, that he's ready to try, he's giving it all up now because he knows whats important. he talks to me like im everything now and I believe he has changed because now I know he wants to. and hes so happy now with this decision and he actually sounds excited about it. like, he really wants this to work and I've never heard that in him before. he's mentioned marriage and commitment and all these other things. we agreed on no sex because we're waiting for marriage and instead of sounding disappointed, he said he wont try anything at all ever unless its a kiss. I think this time away will do us good at talking, right? I mean, am I wrong or what do I do?

Well he has def messed up more than one time, but no one is perfect. Its great that he stopped drinking and smoking and drugs just for you, that is really sweet. And he seems to treat you awesome now. I say, I know that its going to be hard getting over everthing he has done to you, but it seems like you really love him. And it seems like he realllyyy loves you. Its going to take time to get over everything but if you guys love each other like it seems like, it will work no matter what. Just be on your guard, make sure he isnt cheating on you anymore or anything. Other than that, everything seems to be going great for you. Good luck with everything and Congratulations :]]