Handjob help

I was sitting in a movie with my boyfriend, and I slowly reached my hand down and he let me. Then I was just kinda like playing around with it and rubbing it, but then I stopped because I wasn't sure if he was liking it or not. He didn't even have a...

boner! We were talking about it later that night and he said he didn't know why he didn't have one. Then like the day after, we went to a movie again and he let me go down again while we were making out. I was again rubbing and playing with it, and then he whispered in my ear, 'You better do more then just play with it.' I felt nervous and presured to go on, but I didn't know what else to do! Any advice on how to give him a handjob that will blow his mind, and make up for stopping? I'm the only girl who's touched it, so he's never had a handjob before, but I've never given one! What do I do?

YEA WHILE you ARE MAKING OUT AND REACHING DOWN DONT JUST SMACK IT AROUND because THAT CAN KINDA HURT AND IS DEFFINETLY NOT A TURN ON BUT YEA LIKE I WAS SAYIN STROKE IT SLOW AT FIRST THEN SPEED UP BUT NOT TO FAST WHEN HES JUST ABOUT TO CUM(TRUST ME ULL NO WHEN THAT IS) SPEED UP REALLY FAST AND DONT STOP RIGHT AFTER HE DOES KEEP GOING AND SLOW DOWN OVER LIKE A 10 SEC. PERIOD THEN STOP KISSING 4 A SEC AND C THE LOOK ON HIS FACE IF ITS LOOKS LIKE HES STONED THEN you DID A GOOD JOB IF NOT TRY IT AGIAN SOME OTHER TIME BUT TRY USING your MOUTH AND TRY TO MAKE HIM EXPLORE YOUR BODY GOOD LUCK

First of all, don't do it at a movie theatre. That's trashy. Maybe thats the reason he didn't get a boner.

I've never given a guy just a handjob, it always ends in something else! lol

I dunno, handjobs seem silly to me. But here's some tips. Make sure your hand is lubed (either with lube or saliva) so that your hand slides easily. Change your rhythm about every 20 seconds(untill he get's close to cumming) It'll keep him guessing. Give attention to the head every once n a while. Sometimes try using both hands. You can twist them in opposite directions (not too hard!) to give him some friction.

i had my first hand job about 3 months ago....i was with my girlfriend who i hadnt been with long. she had her hands down my trousers in her bed room and she was going to giv me a hand job but couldnt because i wasnt hard. i wanted it so badly, but i jsut couldnt. it puzzeled us both for a while...but then i worked it out. it was my first time and i was subconsoisly nervous...i didnt feal it but i deffinatly was, with out a doubt. after a started to get to know her better, i was hard all the time. my adive to u is to tell him what ive jsut said...let him get used to u touching his body and exploring it...let him explore yours also. this will give him more confidence and eventualy leading to the goal.......PING!!!! get wat im saying.

I don't know how other girls start giving their guys handjobs, but this is how my girlfirend and I got started. She gave me my first handjob about two months ago. We were sitting in my car in her parents driveway kissing. In our last date just before this one, we were sitting in the same place kissing, and she kinda ran her hand up my thigh, and just barely touched the tip of my penis. I thought it was an accident, but I kept thinking about it, and it made me want her to touch it more. So, on this date she did the same thing, and I moved her hand all the way up my penis. She got the idea and began stroking me through my pants. After about a minute, I couldn't stand it any longer so I unzipped my pants, and took it out. She kept on stroking until I came in a wad of tissues. She was really good at this. Afterwards, we talked about and I asked her who had taught her to do that. She said she had been dating since she was 15 (we are both 18 now), and all of the guys she dated wanted handjobs, and several had shown her how to do them in different ways. So, now, I get a handjob every time we go out on a date. I also finger her, and sometimes she has an orgasm. I am a really lucky guy, I think.

Thank you guys for your response! I took your guys' advise and he LOVED it, but he couldn't cum! So I moved on to a blowjob and he LOVED that too, but he still couldnt cum! So he started to jack off, and the whole thing took over forty minutes to cum! Eventualy he did, and he said he loved the whole thing and doesnt know why he couldnt cum. Ecery once in awhile i would hear him whisper or mumble or whatever, 'We need a condom' but neither of us had one atm. Idk what to do, he sayd he wants to do it again...but idk if he will cum...

Well what ever you do make sure you use protection. You don't want to get your hand pregnant.

Itz like this !!! therez a place in the pen you have to rubbed alot !!! there its very sensertive,,, it on the top (side). if you do this,, i think he ll c*m soon !!!

just take your middle and pointer finger around it to your thumb and go up and down nice and smoth.. then go faster and faster... you'll start to hear him breathe harder... I gave my boyfriend a hand job.. and he was breathing hard..and then he cumed everywhere...
hope this help..bytheway... do it somewhere private... he might not have gottin a boner b/c people were around... and maybe you should give him head... its scary to a girl to do that like I was..but I liked it..but jsut try it.. if ya dont like it.. tell him.. and if he is the boyfriend you tink he is.. he will respect it...

Hey. I'm a dude and me and my girl want to do this because we can't arrange for anywhere else. I'm just worried what we should do to like, pass the time? Cause it would be kinda akward to just sit there and look at the screen while she's stroking me off, lol.

Any ideas? Like kissing or something?

me and my boyfriend had a lot of fun in a movie theater like that. He almost came but just pre cum bc the movie ended. haha...and we had to leave lol...but I continued it for him later hehe.. anyways he seemed to like when I would grab his balls at different times...not too much but enough for him to almsot jump and he breathed a lot harder whe I did grab them...and I would use both my hads and he liked that too. I htink it's whatever you feel comfortable with...what you both feel comfortable with. Just have fun

I've never done this before, and im very very selfconsious.
and I dont want to do this (handjob).
but um, I still am to scared on what to do.
hear are some questions:
1.How do you know if he wants you to give him a handjob?
2.I know you stroke your hand, I've heard slower and then make it faster, but I still need some help with this. (how fast how slow)
3.Does it hurt him if your hands are sweaty (I might swear abit he makes me nervous)
4.Do you need lube or spit, I plan on doing this if we are kissing and I dont want to stop and spit on my hand.
5. I told him I've never done this and im scared, but he says im sure youll be okay. but im almost positive I wont. Im to uncomfortable how to ask him which way hed like me to do this, so should I try with my middle finger and thumb or my whole hand / palm?

I've never done this before, and im very very selfconsious.
and I dont want to do this (handjob).
but um, I still am to scared on what to do.
hear are some questions:
1.How do you know if he wants you to give him a handjob?
2.I know you stroke your hand, I've heard slower and then make it faster, but I still need some help with this. (how fast how slow)
3.Does it hurt him if your hands are sweaty (I might swear abit he makes me nervous)
4.Do you need lube or spit, I plan on doing this if we are kissing and I dont want to stop and spit on my hand.
5. I told him I've never done this and im scared, but he says im sure youll be okay. but im almost positive I wont. Im to uncomfortable how to ask him which way hed like me to do this, so should I try with my middle finger and thumb or my whole hand / palm?

Alright Sassafrasstea

1. Usually he will guide you down there. Sometimes you can kinda go in for the kill yourself. While making out with him, feel he body, and if you able to, after getting reallly into making out. Let him touch you, and then put your finger in his beltloops, then slowly move you just lining his boxers. And if this is your first time, just say, Do you want me to? he most likely will get it. (if not he's a dumb sh*t) If he says yes, just reach down, but it's a lot easier if they just pull it out (if your somewhere alone)

2. Just take your three fingers (index, middle and thumb) wrap then around his penis, then dont be worried about holding it to tight, you won't break it. And slowlty go up and down. Then gradually speed up. And while doing it, just rub the head of his penis a little bit. (my boyfriend finds that a turn on) Then go a little faster, and if you really want to make his bust, then ask him to tell you whether or not you need to go faster or slower. There opinion is very helpful the first few times. Then if they tell you not to slow down, they're probably getting close to busting. And finnaly they will feel it. And if you don't want cum on you, then make sure you tell then that. Or you hands going to be covered in it. So is some of the surrounding. But make sure you stop right when he does, cause if you going as fast as you are: then theres gonna be cum everywhere!

3. No it won't hurt them, if anything it will help.

4. Sometimes lube is helpful, but honestly you don't really need it.
And do NOT spit on your hand, that's just gross. Spit is better if your giving a blowjob, not handjob.

5. Don't put yourself down. It's really scary at first cause you don't wanna mess up.
But if he's never had it done by anyone but himself. I woudn't worry about it. Honestly. And don't be uncomfortable to ask. Because your goal is to make them feel really good. And the only way your going to do that is by asking him what he likes, what he wants more, faster, slower, extt. And no don't use your whole hand, unless their penis is really big. Once in a while is good, but not the whole time. Cause then your hand won't have much room to go up and down. So just try the 3 figured I told you before.

Hope this helps you, and don't worry. Your going to blow him away ;]

Doing something like that in the theater kinda makes you a trashy hoe.
Doesn't he have a car or smething? There must have been somewhere better for you to attemp to do that.

And if you were rubbing him and he wouldn't get up. Then it might be that he has erection problems and that it's not you. Or it could be you.

im a guy and I never got one. like when you cum. where do you do it?

maybe you should suck it

Well if it's his first time I don't know why he's expecting so much, maybe somethings wrong with him, lol jk. Umm.. Well it's pretty easy. Just start stroking slowely and up and down. It works. Watch for facial expressions. Or ask him how he likes it.

ok.. how do you get into his pants. subtly while making out, and how do I control his cum. I dont want it on me..

I was getting a hand job in my car, she went on for like 15 minutes, but I couldn't cum! it was very embarrassing for me but I just couldn't cum. any ideas why? is it like a serious problem?