Gynocologist... can she tell?

I have to go to the gyno soon and my mom takes me. I am not a virgin anymore and I do not want my mom to know this. So can the gyno really tell if you have had sexual intercourse or not? I mean yeah she is going to see that it is different down there when I have my pap, but for all she knows I could have done that with a dildoe or something... so can they really tell or not? Im just worried a lot.

Thanks for anyones advice,
Hannah

Your hyman can be torn from anything, not just sex. If she asks if your sexually active, you could always lie. But it may risk other health problems in the future. if you ask her not to tell your mother, she probably wont.

Your doc can't devulge any information about you even if its a relative.

If you can shake off your mum so you see them on your own try just asking 'This is confidential isnt it?', just to make sure they know that there is something on your mind so they wont say much to your mum.

They will be able to tell your hymen is ruptured as you said but again as you said im pretty sure they wont be able to tell how. Ultimatly though they see peoples gentitals all day and being young (I assume) yours will be probably the cleanest, freshest, least damaged they will see all day.

The only reason I can see for the gyno needing to tell your mum is if it is related to the reason you are there in the first place.

Probably, but its sometimes comforting to hear advice for a selection of sources.

yes she can tell...but the best thing is to have your mom wait for you outside of the room if she doesnt know and tell the doctor that you would like to keep the stuff you say between you 2!
*ashley*