How to get over my ex when it's been 3 years?

I went out with a girl for 3 years almost, we were engaged and I did everything and anything for her, she made my world go round. Its 3 years now since we split, I think about her everyday and still love her...? is that a bad thing? how can I still love a girl I went out with 3 years ago? we split because she felt she needed to do her own thing, but the pain has never gotten any easier for me its tearing me apart and having a big effect on my life. How can I get over her? all of my friends are to wrapped up on there own worlds to even make time for me?

I think you need to really talk it over with someone, maybe see a therapist. You need to deal with the pain she caused you by leaving you. Your expectations of getting married were dashed because she decided to leave you and do her own thing. Couldn't commit to a marriage.

Its not good for you to keep thinking about her and what might have been. She's moved on and so should u. you didn't want this to happen but it has and you need to deal with it. It was not in your control when it happened but you can control what happens to you in your life now. You need to deal with it asap before it wrecks your life.

I was with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years when he left me recently. If you get an answer... please let me know. Haha.

What problems were you guys having? Were there any signs that she was thinking about this before she left you? Cause it's pretty strange if she just up and decided to leave you after three years, just so she could 'do her own thing.'

Thanks for both of your replys, I've considered seeing a therapist but I fell by doing this it proves I've got a serious problem (which I know I have). Its true this situation is wrecking my life and im cutting everyone of around me because of it.

sarahhh if I ever do get an answer I'll let you know lol.

We had the odd arguments over little things towards the end but they were always resolved quickly, she suggested she needed some time alone, some space so I gave her a month, in which she didn't really seem bothered and hardly got in contact with me during that period. we met one day and she said it was over, but it was nothing to do with me and I was the best boyfriend she could ever ask for.

What hurts is theres nothing I can blame myself for (if I'd of cheated at least I can blame it on myself) but its left me with doubts and questions I really needed answering.

Aww sadness I know how you feel, I cried everyday for 2 years cause of my ex... How I got over him is started dating again after 2 years it helped... and I stoped crying soo much... What I think you should do is maybe fine a friend as a girl.. and just talk to her and just get to know other people hang out with friends and stuff to take your mind away from that girl... OR maybe try to get her back? Do you think she might ever get back with you now that its been soo long? I know its hard... but dont waste you life on thinking about his one girl... I mean theres many of gurls out there... I hope you feel better. Hugs

Thanks for the reply ganjamasta42, I try my best to try and take my mind of her, but I just cant do it 24/7, theres a least 1 thing a day that reminds me of her, everything I do and everywhere I go it reminds me of her. I have really strong dreams about her and there so nice until I wake up and realise thats exactly what they were dreams! and I fall back to reality with a bump.. Its like my confidence with other girls has gone, as I feel I can't commit to another relationship incase I meet the girl of my dreams for a second time (if only I was so lucky) and we end up in this situation..Will she ever get back with me... Well that im not sure about its 50/50 as I still text her every now and again, but find it hard to say what im thinking in a text message any advice? what would you say if you were me? I asked her if we could meet a couple of weeks ago and she said she was really busy and it would feel strange so I left it at that...about six months after we split my gran died and she came to be there for me and my family and I'll always remember her for that she made me so proud..thanks for listening

It's a little embarrassing, but my ex and I split up 10 years ago and I never got over him. I think I am an attractive person with a beautiful 11 year old daughter. Since I have his daughter, I still have always seen my ex on a regular basis, although I went down other routes and avoided him for months at a time thinking that would help put him behind me, but it didn't. I still love him. The longest I ever went without having any contact with him at all is one whole year-when he wanted to see my daughter, I made him go through her or I made sure I had no contact with him at all. Things were fine, but this was also the same year that I was on Lexapro-an anti-depressant, so that may have been the reason for my strength. But even with the Lexapro, I wasn't strong enough to totally blow him off when he started coming around again being so nice to me. I'm always the person he calls when his world comes crumbling down. I've seen him go through two marriages, family problems, money problems and it has KILLED me to see all of this and it's just totally indescribable all the pain I've felt. He treats me as his friend, but god, does he not know how horrible it is to be crushed over and over again over such a long period of time?