Am I getting over my ex?

So my ex and I have been apart for about 2 mths now. At first I was absolutely devastated about the breakup. The reason for the breakup - she said that we scared her. It scared her that she could love someone so much. And now yes some of you are thinking that if she loved you so much she wouldn't have broken up with you...in a typical situation I'd agree with you all...however because I know her and about her past experiences I believe her when she tells me this. Anyhow. When the breakup first happened I wanted to get back together with her...and sometimes I still do have my moments that I want to get back together with her. She has a new boyfriend however. When we broke up she said she still wanted us to be friends...there is not a single ex of mine that I am friends with now, I just can't see how people do that, so I don't. She told me that if she couldn't ever be my friend again that it meant that she really made a huge mistake breaking up with me. It has now gotten to the point that we don't talk anymore. No texts, calls, emails. I think this as a good and a bad thing. A good thing because she obviously isn't ready to be my friend. A bad thing because I assume that it just means she is over me and doesn't even think about me anymore.

...and your question is...

You know, I agree with you about the no friends thing. I think its incredibly selfish of people who dump someone and then say, let's still be friends. Because what they're really saying is, 'oh, of course, I'll expect you to be here when I need you, and too bad if you still feel a twinge and suffer every time I strut in here with my new love...'

If its a mutual break up, ie BOTH of you want it to end as much as the other, then I can see how a friendship can remain. OTherwise, how can it if it's unbalanced?

Feel good that you can move on with a clean slate