Getting my ex-boyfriend back

My ex boyfriend left me and our son after a 10 month relationship, because I told him I would quit drinking and I didn't. Now I haven't drank in 3 months and everytime we talk we end up fighting. I say things to him that I don't mean, and he says things...

to me that he doesn't mean. I know for a fact he didn't leave because he fell out of love with me, he left because he didn't think I could stop drinking. I have been harassing him asking him to come back and he keeps telling me HE WILL NEVER COME BACK. I mean we were talking about getting married and everything. I can't see why he wouldn't want to come back when the drinking issue was the only problem in our relationship. I can't move on without out him, I love him so much and want him to come back to his son and me. His family says just to back off and let him come to me, but everytime I ask him to come back its like he is trying to hurt me by saying I never want to come back. I honestly don't know what to do! Should I just give it time or what? Please help me!!!

It sounds to me like he is trying to hurt your feeling and I don't think that it's a good idea for your son to be around all of this discontent between his parents. Also, there might have been problems before the drinking and when he saw that you wouldn't or couldn't stop, he used that for the excuse to leave you. It's never a good idea just to wait around, but this is the father of your child... keep that in mind, but don't let that rule your feelings for him because someone better could be waiting for you. Some things just really need to be let go of; it may be hard to face, but maybe you should move on from him.
Good luck and God bless

Obviously you've shared good times, and now some bad. Some people just don't want to come back. Others probably want to, but need a bit of reassurance.

At least you have his family kind of on your side. What is your relationship like with them? Anything you tell them may or may not get passed onto him depending on how strong your relationship is with his family.

Try counseling, but never involve a friend you both know. If you're religious or not, there are some affordable and excellent counseling services available from most churches. If, after trying counseling, things just don't work out, at least you know you've given your best to make things work. His loss!

Good luck!