Get back with him, or leave it alone?

I am 20 years old. Me and my ex-boyfriend Nick dated were together for two years. We were the perfect couple, all other couples looked up to us. We had so much fun together, I loved him so much and he loved me. He even asked me to marry him (not officially, there was no ring), and of course I said yes. But then on our 1 year anniversary I found out I was pregnant. I decided to keep the baby since the father was the man I was going to marry. It all went downhill from there. I found out I was pregnant in spring, and in the fall he left for college 2 hours away. He hardly ever came home, never called, took me for granted, lyed, started doing drugs and drinking. When he was away it was like he completely forgot about me, but when he was home we were back to being the perfect couple again...which really confused me. Later our son was born, and Nick is great with him as a father, but he will not financially support him (we have already been in court for child support so he will be soon enough). He also told me that he decided to go to school 2 hours away again instead of staying home and going to school. So after a year of this confusion I decided that it wasn't working, and I left him because I knew that the next year would be just the same as this one. Well now we have been apart for 2 months and I am wondering if I made a mistake. I miss him terribly. I can't think of anyone but him. I love him so much, and I am pretty sure he still loves me. I am miserable without him. I don't know what to do, he has already made it perfectly clear that he is going away to school no matter what. He also says he's changed and that he doesn't do any drugs anymore or drink, and that he will not lie to me again. I want to believe him but I don't know if I can. Should I try to get back with him and believe that this next year will be different? Or should I leave it alone and try to move on?

this is a hard situation...but I would think the best thing for you two may be to be friends. then there you is doing/him ignoring you. now if you and him became friends but he ignored you still, not returning you phone calls, probably you may need to move on. Now I know why he didnt want to support the baby financially, he didnt want to because he was going to collage and wanting to still buy things for himself. but its good you got him to support the baby financially. Now you know every relationship has their problems, but you gotta think he's in collage now and if he's doing what he's supposed to be doing which is class, studying then thats probably ONE of the reasons why he's been ignoring you. but dont believe that everything is going to be different...because he's going to still be in collage. but probably he MAY have stopped drinking there's no real way you would know he did stop, but lieing is something everybody does, and its natural, but wrong. so when he told you he wont going to lie to you no more he was lieing there. now back to the point I believe you and him should be friends. but until then girlfriend get back on your feet and go find a job so you can support your baby, and DONT stress about it, look on the good side, he's in collage and that A GOOD THING!!

I think that you should give the relationship with your boyfriend another try. If you don't try now, you will regret it for the rest of your life, especially if he ends up marrying someone else in a few short years. Not only do you have a baby together, it seems that you two love eachother. You may want to see him just on weekends and holidays for now, until he graduates college. A college degree is a great key to getting a good paying job, which can help to support you and the baby. At 20, boys are still somewhat immature and do not know exactly want they want out of life. I think that you should discuss long range plans with him. Give him the benefit of the doubt. If he is just pretending to have given up his vices, he may decide to really give them up, or at least cut back, after realizing how much you mean to him. If you make a final decision against getting back with him, it would be almost impossible to go back on it when you get older. If you love someone, you have to trust them and let them free. Speak to him and find out how he really feels about you and the baby.

Are you mad? Read that back to yourself and imagine your doing the advice giving. Try to see it as a third party.