Friends with benefits

Ok so a few months ago I met this new guy at my school and we started hanging out but eveyrone kept telling me like all these bad things about him so I was kinda spetical to go over his house so I made excuses not to when he asked me over but when I finally did we had sex and it was my first time but definitly not for him, he said we could be like friends with benefits and at the time I was like ok because I thought eventually it could turn into something more but it never did and we had sex 3 more itmes and recently I told him that I had feelings for him and that I wanted us to like try to be in a relationship but he said that he wasnt ready to be in a relationship right now because he was bad at being a boyfriend so I odnt know what to do now,I really like him but I dont want to conitnue just bieng friends with benefits and I think he cares about me too I really dont think its all about the sex but I really want us to go out I mean hes kinda bad like he smokes and stuff but hes not like a jerk because hes really sweet when were together so I dont know what to do,I dont want to continue with this but I dont want to lose him either

Ok you should never do the whole friends with benefits thing, because in the end ultimately, someone always ends up getting hurt.. and this is not what you want. I would consider either dating him again, or cutting the whole thing off.. good luck. :]

give him time but not forever. tell him you need answers and this won't go on for much longer. YOU need to be in control. tell him it's all or nothing, no matter how bad of a boyfriend he is, atleast he tries and he could learn to get better.

Dear razor_blade_romance,
When a person wants 'friends with benefits' it's time to turn and run the other way. As you have found out one always gets hurt in this type of endeavour. He made it quite clear that this is what he wanted. Regardless of why he wants it, it's his wish so do yourself a favour and move on. It's always a smart girl who gets to know someone, dates, gets a commitment before committing herself.
Sue...good luck

well the problem started with something you sd...'I thought eventually it could turn into something more '...see the problem a lot of people have with being freinds with beneifits is that they take it too far...I've had a couple of friends with benefits and it worked out fine because we both knew that it was just that and no more...however I've had girls who did just what you did and starting thinkin way ahead of themselves and ended up gettin hurt...look he sounds like a good enough dude and you sem like a sweet girl...so take some of nicole_dawns advise and give him some time but also give your self some time...take a step back and look at your relationship wit him...one of the reasons I was able to have friends with beneifits is cause in the end we knew that we were not good as a couple...we were just friends who could count on each other for sex...lol...maybe he is not the boyfriend type or at least not the type for u...maybe he is nothin more than a friend with that special 'benefit'...hope I helped even just a little

Friends with benefits doesn't always work out...and there is always one that falls for the other one and the other one just does it for the sex... but if you are looking for something serious you should try to look for someone else that actually wants a relationship... if you don't stop it you will eventually will feel used and unappreciated...

face it babe, he's not interested in you as a girlfriend. he's only interested in you sexually, you really need to dumo him before he dumps you. you are worth so much more and he's just disrespecting and trashing you.

You dont think its all about sex...? Hun, thats what friends with benefits is! He is only with you for sex, not a commitment! Thats why sex shouldnt be taken so casual. Save intimacy for someone you will be spending the rest of your life with.