How to handle this fragile situation with my girlfriend?

ok ok first I know I made many questions dealing with my girlfriend and her possible pregnancy... well the situation just got more fragile.

ok here it is, weve been together since november 23 2007 not really that long but long enough we got real close.

but this last week sucked a little I never knew why, till tonight. well I was talking to her on the phone shes in pennsylvania and im in virginia in the navy, now I will give you a quick run down on the last few things I noticed going slightly sour, she told me once she dont know if she loves me as much as I love her, now ithought that was part of the relationship right? is getting to know each other better and just love each other more and more. well we kind of got over that a little bit but yea... now she has just not been the same well tonight I called her and she tells me this a guy she hasnt talked to for 4 months called her tonight, but she knew this guy for 3 years, and she is reallt unsure how she feels because now since this guy is 1 hour from her and they knew each other for 3 years she dont know how she feels about that. and she said if he comes to visit her then she dont know how it will turn out in the end, but she said we are still together and she wants to be with me, she loves me so muchshe changed her myspace and wants me to change mine as well I looked at it today and it says shes single... so I asked her and she said we will still be together but she wants me to put single on mine basically we are taking a break but we are still together.

now this is where I get totally confused. shes with me oh month and a half, and she didnt talk to this guy for 4 months, but he told her tonight that when she turns 18 he wants to marry her and he wants her to move in with her, now when she turns 18 I will be out of the navy my time will be up. so I told her when I am out I was going to get engaged to her at the disney trip I planned for her. so I dont get how she can not talk to a guy for 4 months and as soon as he talks to her she gets weird like this like she dont know if she wants to be with me but at the same time she wants to be with me. like I am so confused right now, this is the second time something like this happened to me and I want to keep her I want to do anything I can to help her to stay with me. her gram said that she would be extremely stupid to leave me for this other guy when this other guy is an as* I am the only boyfriend she ever had that her grandparents like, they really do like me they call me sometimes to say hi, and they cant stand this other guy so I got the grandparents support on this. like how can she just take the risk of meeting this guy who she didnt see for 4 months, who has a kid, and the grandparents dont like what so ever, be wihth him one day or several days just hanging out and if she deciedes that he may be better at the time dump me to go with him, when we have been together always talking and stuff visiting and making these plans. how can she do this, especially if we dont even know if she is pregnant I mean I want to do anything and everything I can to stay with her she is my life, my world my everything she means so much to me and I dont want to lose her over this I really want to basically lack of better words fight to the death doing anything and everything humanly possible for her to stay with me I just cant sit her knowing that the possiblitiy of her ending up with him and then him helping to raise my child if she is indeed pregnant. but please anybody that can offer any support what so ever any advice or anything to help me out in this horribly fragile situation please id appreciate it and thank you oh so much in advance if you are able to help me. thanks again...

funmail me, we'll talk.

I'm not trying to be rude about your girl AT ALL...this is just my opinion ok?...
Kinda seems like she's playing a game with you.
The "Prove you love me" game.
I could be REALLLY wrong though. But from this that's what it sounds like. I'm so sorry though that this is happening. And I hope that you listen to your heart and not what everyone tells you.

you can funmail me, and we can talk too k?

ok what im thinking is either shes serious about this other guy being there which is really weird for her to do but maybe she could be making it up to test your love... just thinking out loud not sure... either way if you care that much about her fight for her and show her your the one she should be with and that you will always care for her... just make sure that if things do go south dont end up getting in a conflict with the other guy that will just screw your chances all together...

hope I helped and good luck

wow..you've known her for about a month or so and it's already this complicated. wow your doomed seriously. maybe in a way this is telling you that your not ment to be together. just let her go for now...if she returns to you than she is hopefully going to be yours for now.
good luck

thanks people I really appreciate it, I just got off the phone with her and what happened is she told this other guy she is going to stat with me until she knows what is going on, which basically tells me right now I am the "fall back" right? this other guy hung up on her and now she is sad because they will never have the friendship again but in this case it is good for me because then this is basically saying that no more him but he is an hour away and they still can talk and possibly hang out which could change her mind, now me being in the navy I dont want to be out to sea, knowing that this may or may not happen and then if it does happen get the dear john letter saying its over. I mean I cant be with her cause we are at sea so thats stressful ill be thinkin about her the way it is and now add this in I just dont want to get mentally and physically hurt.. now she told me shes getting dizzy and stuff and she wasnt feeling good so she was going to get off the phone and try to get some sleep, and she didnt want to mention it until tomorrow, at that time we can keep talking about it but that does bother me a little but at the same time the thing that confused me was she said she wants to be with me and she loves me, so does this mean I am in this somewhat falling apart relationship as a fall back and if I am what should I do? and how can it be a relationship if she is not sure if she really does love me? if she wants to stay with me until she figues out what is going on, is that worth staying with her, knowing that it may end? but she did tell me that by her stating with me over him that is a good sign that she is going to stay with me, and that is true right?

the reason that she's going crazy over this guy she hasn't seen in four months is because she still loves him. the best thing to do is dump her, because she's not worth it. she doesn't appreciate you as much as she should. you're giving her an awful lot of credit even though she is a horrible girlfriend. you deserve better.

Its obvious that she likes/loves this other guy. I dont mean to sound so cold-hearted, but you've only been together for a month and a half, and your already saying she is your life, your world, and means everything to you, when you havent even spent that much time together. You started dating Nov. 27, 2007, and in your very first post, you said you were coming home for Christmas, and its the first time you'll be seeing your girlfriend in over a month. How well do you really know her? Sounds like you had sex right from the start also, which usually isnt a good thing.

Did you know about this other guy, and her feelings towards him?

**now she has just not been the same well tonight I called her and she tells me this a guy she hasnt talked to for 4 months called her tonight, but she knew this guy for 3 years, and she is reallt unsure how she feels because now since this guy is 1 hour from her and they knew each other for 3 years she dont know how she feels about that. and she said if he comes to visit her then she dont know how it will turn out in the end, but she said we are still together and she wants to be with me, she loves me so much**
^^~She said those things to you, because she doesnt want to hurt you, becasue she isnt showing you what shes telling you~
**she changed her myspace and wants me to change mine as well I looked at it today and it says shes single... so I asked her and she said we will still be together but she wants me to put single on mine basically we are taking a break but we are still together** ~She wants to see what the other guys intentions are. As of right now, you seem to be her back up, in case things dont work out with him~.
I know you have deep feelings for your girlfriend, being youre so far away from her, but it seems you are taking things way too fast. I dumped a previous boyfriend, because he was telling me he loved me the first week we started dating. I, on the other hand did not, and I couldnt say something back that I wasnt feeling. Love for me takes time, and getting to know one another is very important.

As far as what to do about your girlfriend...its your call. You cant stop her from having feelings for this other guy, so you have to decide if you can deal with that. Shes telling you she loves you, wants to be with you, and that you are still together, even though her myspace says shes single, and your just "taking a break". If she truly meant all those things, she wouldnt be "taking a break" from you, and she wouldnt have put "single" on her myspace. Those are all signs that she is waiting to see what this guys next move will be.

I have been somewhat down the same road as you, and I made a tough decision to leave. The longer you hold on to something that may never be, the longer its going to take for you to get over it. I would give her an ultimatum...she needs to figure out who she wants to be with, because you'd be a fool to stay in a situation where you might end up getting hurt, especially if shes waiting to see what happens with this other guy. I wouldnt want to be anyones backup!
Keep us posted.

Good Luck!

keeping you posted...

ok well we talked today and she said we are together but we got to take a break until tuesday so she can think a little bit. now she said we are together but not really together like she said to me that I can go and have s*x with other girls until tuesday if I want just I got to let her know and I told her no im not going to do that I love you. now she also told me that the reason for this is that she wants to see her good friend but in case anything happens she dont want o be cheating so thats is why we are doing the break thing. now I got a lot of thinking to do, and I need your help.

Shes taking a break because she doesnt want to cheat on you? Doesnt that tell you anything? That sounds like she plans on sleeping with this guy, and she doesnt want to be considered a cheater. Theres really nothing to think about. Why are you letting her make all the decisions about your relationship? And why are you waiting for someone who isnt even sure she wants to be with you. If she does decide to stay with you, wouldnt you be worried this could happen again? You cant keep her from leaving you no matter how much begging, or crying you do. It'll only show your weakness, and desperation. Find a girl who will commit to you, and only you, because I dont think this girl can.

hmmm seems like shes in a real bad place like my girlfriend is the best thing you can do it talk to her.

im talkin to my girlfriend cus she fancys a guy shes nva gna c again and it messed up our relationship pretty bed.

my advice is to talk as much as poosible and tell her your there for her.