What are good icebreakers before a foursome?

My girlfriend and I are planning to have a foursum with another couple 2 moro night. We are a little nervous but more excited. Im not Sure on the proper way to break the Ice when they get here. My Girl want's very badly to be with another girl but...

never has and my friends wife also love to play with women. I am just wondering if anyone knows any good icebreakers

These things don't always turn out the way you think they might. Sometimes anxiety is involved, or jealousy, but if it works it can be great and well worth repeating.

When they arrive, ask everyone to take 10 mins, sit down at the table and write on a piece of paper the ONE thing they are just DYING to get out of this encounter, that involves multiple partners and being selfish E.g. you yourself maybe can't wait to be orally serviced by two women at once Now is the chance! .

What about a game of strip poker? Or pop into an adult store and pick up some sort of sexy board game. Start slow, its usually nerves that make you take all your clothes off at the door and dive in... so take your time and enjoy. Try to discuss boundaries before the get-together... like whether he's allowed to do anything to your girl or you're allowed to do anything to his girl.

Posing for pics is a fun thing to do as well. Of course only if everyone is comfortable with that. Get the girls to pose with each other.

Have fun and play safe!

Dear hawkeye4375,
Do some reading on having a 4 some first. You will find that the stats say you will more than likely loose your partner in a short period of time. When bringing other partners into a sex life indicates problems in the relationship. A good counsellor would be a good ice breaker to telling your partner you have deep problems. There is a hormone that we call the affection hormone; when a person has sex with someone this hormone flows through the body...for women it is much stronger then men. This corresponds with why women who swing leave their partners soon. The other stat is the male you invite to your swinging will do everything he can to make himself a much better lover than you...YIKES...add this to the hormones and you have trouble with a capital T. So we do not ever recommend this activity but we do recommend telling your partner that you find her enough of a woman to satisfy you.
Sue...good luck

Sue, with all due respect, are you condemning the act of swinging, because of the sancity of marriage and the theory that too much oxytocin production with the wrong person can lead to the marriage or partner break-up? Meaning that you would also be against the couple having a threesome, not just a foursome?

And can we take it a step further - what if no great romance was involved and all 4 people were unattached? Would you then be prepared to recommend the activity along with cautionary words about safe sex?

I would like to understand your thought process. I took his question at face value. It never occured to me to answer the question that hadn't been asked - Should we do this or not, and if so, why not?

Yes it brings up many moral questions about having sex without feelings and just for the sake of sex. I just report what is reported about this activity. On a personal note I do know a few couples who tried this behaviour and both marriages broke up. Is it coincidence that the women in both the marriages left their husbands for one of the men they were swing with? I am very against this behaviour with a third, forth or no matter how many are brought into an established relationship. I am also very against having sex without commitment even if the stats showed this was a behaviour that aided in one's life...fortunatly the stats don't show this but do show in fact it does harm relationships and does nothing to increase a persons moral value of themselves or others.
Sue...good luck

Do a lot of petting / until you all get up and in to HEAT then go [ very slow] in every thing that you do from there [ to make it all LAST And you will most likely go in to senual OVERLOAD which means that the brain will not REMEMBER the event.
SO YOU HAVE MAKE A NOTE [ THAT I'am GOING TO REMEMBER THIS THE THRILL-SENSATIONS etc. Unless you make that note / You will not remember the sensations / because your brain is in over load

I agree with playing a sexy board or card game, or even watching an XXX rated movie always gets me going

I've been with the same person for almost four years, over which we've had threesomes and foursomes almost from the start. It happened with friends (threesomes only: trying to find a willing couple among our friends was a bit hard) and couples we've met that are, for the most part, becoming friends. We still haven't found a stable couple to see now and then but that would be the goal for us and is actually on its way... ;-)
As a side note, I also don't like anonymous sex and I want to develop something amicable with the ones I have sex with... So I'm not going to any types of clubs as they feel cold to me and kijiji does wonders with the right approach. ;-)

I'd like to comment on Sue90's answer even though this thread is getting old, it's still on google!

I think I can understand how a couple can go bad over this experience but at the same time it's not a rule at all!

If you know your couple and you know why you're doing it, it probably won't happen to you and it can be a very pleasant and enriching experience! I'm not saying it's something you have to do, but I'm saying some people feel the need for different kind of experience, to each his own, just think/feel it through.

Maybe it's because it puts sex under a new light that some couples who were basically based on sex broke when they realized it wasn't special to their couple. But I'm sure there is a 100 ways to break over this and 100 ways to enjoy it, know yourself first! One couple we met actually asked us, do you love each other? before going any further... I thought that made a lot of sense! Foursomes are not a patch to any problems but a fun way to go further.

Anyway, I find it a bit absurd that someone would object to sex without any feelings (even though I don't think this is what is discussed here) and at the same time say that an hormone control our life and that you'll be a victim of it. Wow, I hope I'm not a robot and that I still have some free will.

So, only as future references I guess, strip poker _is_ a fun way to start (I should know ;-) or any other games! A bit of alcohol might loosen the mood but don't drink too much or you'll miss the exchange and stay safe (yeah I know it's cliché but trust me, things can go fast!). Other than that, make sure the mood is right and that you have plenty of time ahead, a calm / safe place (cushions? water? some cake? a wood fire? and pinkpearl's idea are great too! Be creative or just jump in, as long as everyone is itself it will be a good memory for the rest of your life!

cheers enjoy!

(as fau said, how did it end !? hehe!)

*oops, duplicate post*

I would say I too came to this page because I wanted to see others thoughts and suggestions my wife and I have been married 18 wonderful happy years and we have had many sexual experiences with others out side our marriage. The one I want to talk about is with my best friend still single at 35 we have had threesomes with him more times than can be counted. See we go through times that the three of us are together all the time and then we get busy and drift apart a bit and then we run in to one another start hanging out and then we always start playing again. I said all that so that I could give you this advice. If you all know and agree that you all want to do this then as soon as you are all to gether bring it up, get it out, and clear the air and then it will be easier to relax and everyone slowly progress in most any game or activity you choose.I will also add that a great smell like cucumber melon airfreshener is relaxing and can be a great lead to the smell of a lotion which can lead to the feel of the lotion to a massage to ... see where im going here..

Be safe enjoy and sue you seem to be in need of a good counsellor if you believe that stuff you spouting...
Keep it Real
KandK