Do I have a chance with this forbidden love?

I am a very attractive single woman in her forties but am always told I look thirty. My children are grown and gone and I recently spent five years in school achieving two degrees. As I was so involved in self improvement I didn't date anyone for this length of time and was consequently celebate for the past six years until I met a man at a bar I occasionally frequent.

He was very nice to talk to and had a crush on me that he didn't mind expressing. He was very honest about his marriage but said they were over and no longer in love but had so many assets together that getting out of it would be tough. They are both in their fifties and have been married six years of course without children. This is his fourth marriage. His last marriage lasted ten years.

I had known him for a year before I could no longer resist his many charms (and my long celebacy) then I invited him over and the sex was more than amazing. (I seduced him).

That was three months ago and we are madly in love. I knew in my heart that it was all wrong so I broke it off with him three weeks ago. I had a relapse when I ran into him last week and we went to my house and made love.

I e-mailed him the next day to say that I never want to see him again unless he has proof for me that he has moved out of his house and filed for divorce. I will stubbornly stick to this as I know I can if I carefully avoid him in order to avoid tempation as our chemistry together is something I have never before experienced with any other man in my life.

The other problem is that we are so right for each other, we like all the same things and have so many things in common. I am forty and have found my soulmate but he is married to his fourth wife. I know for a fact he thinks I am his soulmate as well and loves me deeply.

I guess he will just have to prove it.

His track record on keeping a marriage would have made me run in another direction! He seems to fall in and out of love a lot. You sound like an educated women, but im not sure about the self improvement part. You are involved with a married man. Someone who claims to no longer love #4 wife. Are you looking to be #5?

All I have to say to your situation, as I say to anyone who is involved with someone who is married..if he TRULY loved you, and you are TRULY his soul mate..he would leave his wife to be with you, NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCES!!

When a man shows you who he is, believe him. (ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS)