Finding "substance" in moms purse

Sorry I wrote a lot but please read it.

Hey everyone. I'm actually not new to the site, I have another account on here but did not feel comfortable asking this question on that account. Alright here it goes...

Tonight I was just sitting downstairs...

watching tv with my Mom and she was expecting my sister in law (my half-brothers wife) to come over to give her some money. Well as soon as she walked in and saw me sitting there she kinda hesitated to hand over the money to my Mom. And my Mom just opened up her purse and said, just set it in there, with my bill money. So she had this money in her hand scrunched up so you couldn't see it and put it in there. Well this money was wrapped up in some kind of plastic so, I knew as soon as I heard her put it in there that it didn't sound like no money to me. Well a couple hours later when my Mom went to bed I told her I was going to go downstairs to get my cellphone and call my friend, she said okay and went to bed. Besides getting my phone I was actually planning on looking in her purse but I got my phone first. I looked in her purse and could her the paper like I did before, and I pulled it out. Marijuana. I knew it, I had caught her with it before (about a year ago) but she told me it was my brothers. I knew he had smoked it but I didn't believe her even though I said I did. That was only once though... Two years ago I actually found it in this closet like thing we have in our house (I was just exploring it since I never really looked in it before) and reached on this high up shelf and found some there too, with a pipe. I remembered the smell instantly when I seen and smelled it tonight.

First things first. My Mom, Dad and the rest of my family do come from a good and happy family. We have a nice home, family friends, pets, and a good reputation in our town. Were not the like loser type of family. But it kinda I guess hurt me when I finally just... KNEW that my Mom did it. I mean the times before were obvious, but this time was even more. She doesn't know that I know... do I say anything to her? What? I dont' know if I want to, I mean I think that would hurt our relationship a bit, or make her feel embarassed like I think shes a bad person. But I dont, I think she's wonderful, I jsut don't know how to react or what to think about it all... Advice Anyone? Thanks! I'm 17 btw.

WOW MANDYLOO I THINK YOU ARE JUST WRONG!!!

Funadvice...if you snooped it was because you cared...I would have done the same thing...and I defifinetly care what my mom consumes, WHY do I care because she is MY mom... and you should be scare of talking to her, im pretty sure she WONT get mad. and you HAVE ALL THE RIGHT TO TELL HER WHAT YOU FEEL... IF YOU FEEL LIKE SHE SHOULDNT BE DOING THAT WELL GO AHEAD LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. and just because your an adult that doesnt mean you are going to be out of the house anytime soon...im almost 20 and im still with my mom...im not a bum I actually have 2 jobs and I help with the bills and go to school anyways... and because your mom is a wonderful person that is why you should tell her and your bond will become stronger... trust...me

Honestly, you had no right to be snooping around in your mother's purse in the first place.

You can talk to her about what you found and how it makes you feel, but be prepared for her to be mad when she finds out that you were snooping. Your mother is a grown woman and what she decides to do with her body and her life are her choices. You can tell her how you feel about it - but ultimatly it's her body that she is putting pot into and you have no right to tell her not to.

Your 17 years old, your almost an adult and will he out the house soon. You have said before that you Mom is a wonderful person, so why dwell on this. She raised her kids and was a great mom - so now she wants to do what she wants. I say just ignore it and move on.

U HaD EvRy RiTe 2oo Be SuSpIcIouS Bt Nt LooK in Her PuRse...
MaYb ShE dOeS bUY iT 4UR bro...?

She is a grown woman - not a child. He had NO right to snoop in her purse. I'm sorry. She is parent and he is the chid.

I already said he can tell her how he feels - that does not mean that she has to stop though. Like I said, he's almost an adult and as he said, she's a wonderful mom. What she does in her spare time - is none of his business.

I know, but what about the times when she snoops around on me and my dad? She takes the keys to his shop when hes sleeping to go snoop in his shop. Sometimes she even asks me to go out there. Yeah, I'm not perfect, I've taken the keys myself when shes sleeping, and he's at work and I go get some beer out of his fridge and drink away! The first time I found the pot and pipe, I took it and was gonna smoke it because I thought since my Mom did, WHY CANT I? But I decided not to. Who knows, its still down there, maybe I will go down there and take it now! Me and my friend could have some fun for once. And then she'll be like oh no where is it?! Honey, your brother... UM NO, NOT MY BROTHER. I dont like the fact that she lied to me 3 times about it already and truth be known she would do it again. Then when I lie to her about skipping school a day she gets so pissed and says stuff like, WHY? Why do you lie to me like that? And makes me feel sooo guilty. Well, why does she have to lie tome like THAT? I dont think its fair.

TALK TO HER.. that's all you can do. You have to understand though, that she will probley be mad because you snooped and also she is a GROWN woman and you can't force her to stop.

Yeah its me here2help just so you know. I guess it doesnt matter if everyone on the entire site knows.

Mandyloo is wrong

the reason you snooped was because yu care about your mom...you had everyright to

***sneakykaykay

Its not for my brother, Its FROM my brother. Haha how messed up, my brother and his wife give my mom pot. Kinda funny actually.

I wonder if my sister knows. (shes like two years younger than my brother. (shes 32)
Maybe I should tell her. She doesnt do it though and I honestly dont think she knows that my Mom does it, but she knows about our brother doing it.

I totally disagree with mandyloo. You had every right to look in that purse!!!\
I have had similar problems. Just keep your eye open then talk to a trusted adult