I have really strong feelings for a female friend

problem 1: I need sum URGENT and good adice please, I have really strong feelings for a female friend and want more than friendship, her passed relationships were complete disasters but the thing is she says she's seeing someone else (apparently for about 4-6 months) but none of her friends or family know about him, she doesnt know his surname and she would rather go on holiday with me and not him. she acts totally different when were alone to what she does when were out and about. she gies me the impression she likes me and is useing this other guy as a kinda fall back because she's being careful. what do you guys think? because I am extremely confused now.

problem 2: we recently just had a huge argument and we both said some REALLY nasty stuff but now she thinks I dont appreciate her which is NOT the case at all, I would do ANYTHING for her, I'e tried explaining myself to her and I wrote her a poem tellin her how I feel and what an idiot I have been, but she's now talking as tho she never wants to see me again and that she's going to throw all of it away because of it, I want to make it up to her by any means possible but im kinda stuck because she wont let me see her in person, im not a rich guy and don't beleve that expencive gifts is the way to show how sorry you r, let alone a way into her heart. does anybody have any ideas on what I cud do? not over the top tho because.she's just a close friend and I don't think she's into the soppy stuff either lol. please help.

really think of how to see her and tell her how sorry you are maybe she might forgive u.

women can be crazy at times, give it a little while and im sure it will blow over. I had the exact same problem, I never got the girl though. When your friends with a girl its easy to make a move, but when your best friends it complicates the sh*t out of things. what was the argument about anyway, grudges with friends usually only last a couple weeks, if that. My advice to you is don't try so hard. If she's your friend and does like you as a boyfriend, she'll contact you. You act desperate, keep take advantage of that. Trust me on this one, make her realize that she needs you, not the other way around. good luck

I did leave her to have some time to think and she has now contacted me but still seems abit off with me, which is understandable tho. the argument was pretty pathetic to be honest, it started because we had arranged on a monday to go to the cinema on the thursday and then 4 a bite to eat after. then wednesday nite comes and I sent her a txt asking if we were still on for cinema and food, she txt me back on thursday morning saying that she's now going to see this other guy strait after the cinema, so I said "ok well she we leave it for today and arrange it for another time because I didnt see much point in meetin up, sittin in silence for 2hrs then going our own way strait after" so she txt me back saying "no dont bother!!" then basicly went from there because she started blaming me for starting this argument, anyway, towards the end of the argument she started bringin this other guy into it and it felt to me as tho she was trying to rub it in my face that she's with him and not me and how he treats her better than I do ect. she was ayin things like "I wish you never cared in the first place" & "u've done nothin but bring me problems" but she cant specify any of them (n I've done a lot for her and have never asked or expected anythng in return). and in the end I said to her that I didnt care about her and him being together because its none of my business and that as far as im concernd they can live happy ever after till the day they die (which I know was the wrong thing to say and was really out of order but the things she said to me really did upset me) and thats why she stoped talkin to me because she thaught I meant it as in I was wishing she was dead (which I would never do) I explaind that to her and then she said it was because she felt as tho her time wasnt good enough for me. so anyway because she made me feel like it was all my fault and thats when I wrote her the first serious poem im ever written in my life lol basicly saying sorry for everything.